[Lis409]

Hi Everyone!

My name's Alissa. I'm an adult adoptee (25) and am new to this site so thought I'd introduce myself!

I was adopted as an infant (11 weeks) from Mauritius and flown over to Australia to join an International family consisting of a Scottish mother, Dutch father and their two biological boys (my brothers are 5 and 7 years older than me).

The reason for my adoption was simply because my mother wanted a girl and didn't want to leave it up to fate (that and she's always Loved dark skinned children!).

My topic of my adoption has always been open, except for the reason of why my birth mother placed me up for adoption. The file on my adoption has always sat in a place I have been able to open and view at any time in my childhood, however, my mother felt that the document containing the actual reason for my adoption was too depressingly written (it called describing me as being abandoned and she couldn't stand the thought of me thinking I had been abandoned!).

As anyone who has been adopted will know, one of the most prominant questions we have is "Why?" so when I found out that my mother had known all these years I was a little upset. She had said in the past that it was probably because my bmother was too poor to keep me but I had thought this was just speculation like I had done, not realising this was partical truth.

The reason for my being up for adoption was that my bmother had been seeing a married man and when she fell pregnant he left her and wouldn't have anything to do with it. My bmother's step-father told her she either had to give up the baby or move out and being poor she gave me up.

Once adopted, I've had a relatively nice life. My adoptive family, immediate and extended and I are very close. In some ways, my abrother who is biological to my parents has more troubles than I do, which has probably resulted particially due to my adoption and my aparents need to feel they needed to continually make sure I felt like I belonged.

I am open about my adoption with people, although it is hard not to be when I am a different skin colour than the rest of my family.

So, that's my story. If you feel like asking any questions, please go for your life. I will answer as much as I can but please remember I can only speak from my own experiences and feelings.

I look forward to hearing and sharing stories and experiences with everyone!

Alissa

[bajj]

Welcome to the forums, Alissa!

I was raised in a family with both bio and adopted siblings. I have adopted 2 boys myself.

I hope you find what you are looking for in this community!

[Lis409]

Thanks Bajj!

It's nice to know I can come and talk about things and have people who will totally understand what I'm talking about and where I'm coming from.