[Lionna]

help,i have been trying to get connected with this site on adoption here...there are no instructions or a how to page for beginninger...(threads are what i put in needles and sew with) , am not sure this is going to work.. what i am looking for is support and infromation as the lesbian partner of a birthmom who is in the process reuniting. I am wondering if any other lesbians have had this experience ? what exactly am I called if my partner is called "birthmom"? Is there a specific place i sholud be looking for this information...what forum? can anybody help me as i am trying hard to learn this computer stuff (i have read the rules/agreements/safty info etc.) but more or less don't know a thing about communication via computer let alone using one...perhaps I just should'nt be here at all but am desperate to find info or hear from others. would appreciate any help.Thank you!

[SchmennaLeigh]

Hi Lionna; you'd definitely fall under the Birth Family Support forum. I'm not sure what your title would be; we don't even know what to call my Husband who is not my birth daughter's biological father. It's an interesting question at the very least.

Welcome to the forums.

[Sun8]

The majority of birth kids ( adults reuniting) call their birthmom by their first name, might just go with your first name as well. Mostly in reuniting it is an adult relationship as the adoptee has a "mom and dad" (adopted family) so those names are taken abviously. Some adoptee's do however call birthmom..mom but it isnt all that common from what I know.

[Teresa K]

I think the same as you introduce yourselves to anyone else would work well. If it is partner, lifepartner, mate, I don't see why it would be different than anyone else. BTW..welcome, in time you'll be quite proficient I am sure.
T

[Lionna]

thank you Tfor your reply,i only received 3. do you know of any resources specific to lesbians whose partner is a birthmom who is in process of reuniting? i would like to be more supportive of her over all process ,as well as become informed of our process as a couple about to enter into being a 'family'...i've never been a 'parent' before! Thanks again, lionna.

[Lionna]

sun8-just wanted to say thank you for your reply and ideas about birth kids being adults when reuniting. ..i guess my name will do just fine.thanks again!

[Teresa K]

Isn't there a gay/lesbian section on this forum?? I do hope that is PC...liona, I am asking my network of friends if they know anyone in your situation and sent you a PM. Teresa

[Lionna]

Thank you for your reply and ideas. i posted a new search question in the birth family support forum as you suggested hoping to get some resonses from there. i looked at the open adoption chat room for tuesday and is doesn't seem to be what i am looking for, but thnak you anyway. i appreciate your taking tha time to get back to me. lionna