[StacieB]

I got a letter in the mail Monday 5/17 with all of her information from the state it says she got the info too. All week no response, she lives 25 minutes away. Can someone help me know what she is going through? She was searching too, I hate waiting. My birthday is the 31st and I hope to hear from her before then. Any comments/encouragement would be helpful.

[SUZIREY]

Dont worry she will contact you. You can't forget even she was looking for you!

[StacieB]

I've already driven past the address they listed and tried to email her from an address I found online. I just hope there isn't a huge lapse of time before I hear from her.

[bowiefreak]

I agree with stacy she Will contact you. She was looking for you too meaning she still cares about you. You'r lucky I don't even know if my birth mother still cares. My birth mother DID visit me before the adoption was finalized and she DID give me a plaque but who knows if she STILL cares. You'r kin is most likely very nervouse and excited and a whole lot more feelings that shes feeling right now.So good luck and CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!! KEEP YOUR KIN CLOSE, YOU NEED ALL THE FREINDS AND FAMILY YOU CAN GET.

[StacieB]

I really didn't want a lesson in patience right now. After all this time, everything I wanted is right there in front of me, but I still can't reach it. I'm not worried, I know that she will contact me soon. I wonder if it will be on my birthday which is 9 days away. THAT would be cool. Thanks for your encouragements and I'm sure that your bmom still cares bowie.[color=purple]

[Tink1965]

Hi Stacie

I know what your feeling, waiting for that response, Urg....it is the hardest part. I am sure she is thinking about all this and possibly preparing herself and family for what may come next. It is definately something that is worth waiting for. Human nature is to want instant gratification and control, I struggle with that on a daily basis. Hang in there and keep posting, it helps pass the time while we wait and wait and wait.
I hope that you will get some type of response by your birthday. I received an e-mail 5 days after my birthday, it was incredible feeling, you know it is a day that is not forgotten no matter how old you are. Good luck to you!

Tink

[GE_Glows]

Take it from someone who's been there - hearing from her on your birthday would be the best gift you could ever receive!!!

Hope it happens for you too - just pay attention each time you answer the phone. I was deep in a conversation w/a co-worker this year on my b-day when the phone rang and it was my bdad for the 1st time. I almost dropped the phone...

Anyway - early happy birthday!

Best Wishes to you!

Toby

[l-thompson]

Hang in there Stacie...

How awesome is it that she was searching for you too!!!
Gosh, that has to be a positive.
She may just be gathering her thoughts and wanting to make sure first contact is "perfect".......I know I wanted to say the right things in the right way the first time.

Take Care

[StacieB]

Thank you all so much. I need to hear all of these things right now. I've driven myself crazy wondering what is taking so long and it's only been a week. At least I can laugh about that part. I told my husband it's like taking a bite of the best steak you ever had and then no matter how hard you try you can't take another bite. Thanks again for your help while I try to get over this waiting hump!

[StarryNight™]

I contacted my birthmoms sister in Sept of last year and she called my birthmom immediately... who then waited until the night before my birthday to call me. Telling me she did not want to spoil my birthday by calling me on that day. (As if lol) Just keep the faith, matters of the heart never happen when we want them to. they work on their own time.

[StacieB]

What do I do now??? I have driven past the address I received. I have sent her an email and still nothing. Can someone tell me if I should just contact her parents? She doesn't have a phone. Should I have my HUSBAND call for info? Should I put a letter in her mailbox? I have to do something. I'm driving myself insane!!!!!!!

[mlbsands]

I say put a letter in her mail box.. she may also be waiting for you to contact her.. she may not have gotten your email..

[ChristiBender]

I vote for putting a letter in her mailbox. Let her know that you excited and anxious.... but that she does have some control over the type and frequency of contact. Ask her to contact you soon so you can sleep!!!

Happy Birthday (almost here)..... keep us posted.....

[Tink1965]

I am with the others, send a letter! My bmom did not get the first two e-mails that I ever sent to her. She did not respond until I had written a letter. Go for it!
Hope you had a great birthday yesterday

Tink