[N2dolfyns]

I am a mom, a birth mom, and recently became an adoptive mom. As an adoptive mom I can assure everyone that we love our adopted children every bit as much as we do our bio children. There's no difference what-so-ever. Even though my son was six YEARS old when we adopted him...we felt completely head over heels in love with him from the moment we laid eyes on him. I hope all adoptees know this and realize that their adoptive parents would go to the ends of the earth for them. As a birth mother, I want to say that not a single day has gone by since 11/11/1987 that I have not thought about my birth son. Not a single birthday has gone by that I haven't found a quiet place to sit and cry...even though I know he is in a wonderful home surrounded by an amazing and loving family...my heart aches every single day and I am looking forward to the day that he wants to know me....and I'm terrified that he won't want to. For all of you adoptees who are searching for your birth parents, good luck. You give me hope that my son will want to find me some day, too. I've done all that I can do to make sure he won't have to try very hard and I'm very lucky that his family has been open to contact with me off and on through the years to be sure they have my current address, telephone number, etc. Again, good luck.

Kelley, Thank you, it is reassuring to hear both sides of the story. I hope in the future your bson does seek you out!! Good luck
Donna

[Merrylynn]

Dear Kelly,
Thank you for your sweet letter. Sometimes I wonder if my birth family ever thinks about me. Your honesty reminds me that they do. I look forward to the day that I can thank them for their strength and selfless love for me. Blessed are they that mourn, for they will be comforted!
Sincerely, MerryLynn

[N2dolfyns]

I'm so glad that my post helped someone. I know it's tough...on both sides. Adoption is supposed to be a wonderful and beautiful thing...but we never seem to think of the child when they are going through life wondering where exactly they came from, and where the fit in. Someone, all adoptees always feel like they are missing something from their lives...I've met very, very few who don't.

I guess it's one of those things you have to look at the whole journey and not just the day of reunion. Get the most you can out of all of it.

Best wishes --- Happy New Year everyone.

[sborsch]

You know I can tell. my adoptive parents feel the same way there is no difference. i am a bmom wating to send out a letter to my 16 yr old daughter on Monday. i just got work that I could write. I had already had most of the letter written as I have been working on it for 16 years. I do have not had one day in those 16 years that I have not thought about her. she has been a daily part of my life just as if I were putting on my shoes everyday! I have filled out a concent form so that she and her parents will be able to call or write directly to me. so when i get the mail or answer my phone i will never know what I will find or who will be on the other end. as it was this phone call i got on wednesday was out of no where and i mean no where! take care and god bless!!!!