[specialk4b]

For you first-time waiting moms, are you planning to celebrate Mother's Day or is this an ouchy day for you?

For those who have children at home, what are your plans for Mother's day?

[TeriInAZ]

It's not an ouchy day for me. I plan to spend the day with my mom and some time with my grandma. Of course if I am ask how long this process is one more time I may go into a screaming tantrum, so that would be something new!!!!

[specialk4b]

I plan to stick my head in the sand and ignore the day with respect to my own motherhood. (Well, more likely stick my toes in the sand - we're headed to Florida). It's kinda tough, wanting to be a mom and it not happening yet. Through infertility treatments and now the wait, it's been hard to believe I will ever be someone's mommy.

We will, of course, call my mom and HunnyB's mom to wish them a lovely day (presents have already been sent).

I will probably say a prayer and possibly shed a tear for my birthmother, wherever she is.

[Yash]

I will be spending the day with my mom, my aunts, and my cousins. Thanks for the post, it reminded me to call my brother to finalize our Mother's Day plans. Can God send me my husband all ready so I don't have to be part of the Mother's Day planning? And so my mom doesn't ask me for money so she can take the kids shopping to buy me a gift.... I expected to pay for my own gifts, but must it start my third Mother's Day in?

[Norahs]

Mother's Day will be a little hard, but we are having a BBQ. My parents, Aunt, cousin, his wife, their 3 yr old daughter and their new baby boy will be over. We are going to heat the pool for the first time...hopefully I will be distracted...maybe only cry when I go to bed that night..lol
sigh................

[bobandbonnie]

Hi! It will be my first Mother's Day since my son came home from Guatemala and I am looking forward to it! We are going to the Phillies game and then probably dinner. I SUSPECT there will be flowers and a present too. :-) But, I must say last Mother's Day was HARD, with my son in Guatemala and it seemed like FOREVER until I will bring him home. We are so new to the Vietnam adoption process, that all has not sunk in yet! I fear it will be at least Mother's Day 2009 before I have my future daughter home, so will not think about that... I do wish you all a Happy Mother's Day! And for those of you waiting, hang in there! You have already done so much for your child, you deserve a great day and you will have so much to look forward to! I promise the wait will be worth it!
Bonnie

[amyfk]

I am not really sure what I plan to do on Mother's Day but I have taken beading classes and I'm in the process of making bracelets for my mom and grandmother, which I hope they like. Theyre hard to please.
Amy K, NJ

[babystork]

I wish everyone a happy mother's day, special congrats to Bonnie to her first mother's day . As for me, I am a first-time waiting mom and will as usual give my mom back home a call (otherwise I never hear the end of it ).

[JaimieC]

We will go to church in the morning and then I have to head to work in the afternoon. So, I dont have any fun plans for Mother's Day.

[Norahs]

Amy K, where in NJ are you? I'm in NJ too !

[2waitingparents]

This is my first Mother's Day with my son home. Last year about did me in with the wait. I cried but was also looking forward to seeing him. We went Memorial Day weekend to visit him last year. I also went to buy him some goodies that day and that made me feel hopeful. For all of you waiting, I would write a letter to your child and keep it in a journal or put it in their lifebook. Also, you may want to work on their lifebook (i.e. poems, pictures of Vietnam, write up the history). Doing something for them will help you through the holiday. At least it did me.

This year my two T's (dh and ds) are going to make me breakfast and if the weather is nice we will go for a bike ride. I will also spend a few minutes thinking about our next babe and write him/her a letter. Although, I do think it will be a him. Just a feeling.
Cathleen

[makarios79]

This is my first Mother's Day as a foster mother..I plan to go to church with my mom and then we will probably go to dinner...

It is kind of bitter sweet because most people, especially those at my church see me as just a glorified babysitter and not a mom at all (even though I am adopting my 2 oldest soon)....They still don't see them as "mine."

We have had a lot of people have kids in the past few months and some that will be having kids very soon (sadly they are mostly teen mothers) but they all get so much support from my church and no one even acknowledges my kids, let alone give me any kind of moral support, just because I chose to be a single mother (or to them a full time babysitter of someone else's kids.) But they feel it's their duty to tell me what I should and should not be doing with the kids, like they are some kind of public property since they are foster kids.....(((sigh)))

I'm kind of glad that I am not going to be at my church this mother's day....I don't want to get my feelings hurt when I don't get a mother's day present...They are usually very supportive but not this time, oh well....I guess I better get used to it because I don't plan to stop fostering (or adopting) anytime soon....

[LucindaM]

Wow, I hadn't really thought of myself as a first time Mom, but in a way I am, sort of. We have 4 bio children and the youngest is 20 so to say the least it's been a long time since I parented a baby. Our kids have scattered so it will be a quiet day with just one son coming home. Knowing my husband and my son they will probably cremate something on the BBQ (actually they do a pretty good job). I have found that holidays during this wait for referral don't feel quite right, someone is missing, our Emily. I just tell myself that next year she will be here and we will be complete.

Lucinda

[AngelsMama]

This is my first Mother's Day with my son since he came home from Guat. The past two Mom's Days were especially hard after losing a child in utero and waiting fo DS to come home. DH has a day planned that I know nothing about, just that I don't have to get dressed up. Yeah!! Happy Day to all those waiting...you too are a Mommy!

Tina

[murdoc]

Hummmm... Mother's day already!
Well, as this is my first mother's day I really don't know how I feel. My daughter is only 9months old and it's not like she is going to bring me breakfast in bed just yet. So I figure it's going to be pretty "status quo" this weekend.

And of course I'm going to have a heavy heart knowing that our son is out there somewhere and though he dosen't know it yet... he already has a mommy that is thinking about him.

I know I am lucky to be a mom already but it dosen't change the fact that this mother's day and even maybe the next one too... the dinner table will be one place setting short.

So I guess that sums up how I feel.

Murdoc