[confused_mommyky]

i am currently 7 and 1/2 months pregnant with my second child who is a boy. the circumstances of how i concieed him made me concider adoption... the other night i went to sleep i had a dream that i had my son and he was so small he had the most gorgeous blue eyes and brown hair he was so innocent and as soon as i seen him all i said was to get him away... in the dream he also had a name noah....and when i looked up the meaning of it it meant comfort, rest and peace... when i woke up from the dream i was in tears and i just need some insight on what it could mean...

[Asha0314]

Hi,
I cannot tell you what that dream might mean, but maybe you should look into counseling if you aren't getting any yet?

Best wishes to you.

[JustPeachy]

I'm not sure what the dream may have meant, but I would not make my decision based on it. Are you receiving any sort of unbiased counseling and exploring all of your options right now? Can you tell us more about your situation??? Please know you don't have to rush into a decision about placing your child. Take all the time you need to make your decision, and you will also need to re-evaluate things after your baby is born. You may be set on adoption and decide after having him to raise him yourself. That is OK.

[cetalley]

Confused, Congrats on your pregnancy! I think dreams are just that..Dreams! My dad,(indian), used to tell us, dreams were our spirits way of guiding us! Take from that what you wish...then toss the rest! I must say that what the rest of these wise ones have said, is the best advice you will EVER recieve. You have made a plan, plans change. You are already a Mother, and know exactly what it feels like after meeting your child for the 1st time. We think a whole lot different after we give birth. You owe NOBODY, "your" child, so do not even think of the new parents(if this is in this equation). You are the only one whom will know after you give birth to your son. I will tell you though, if it is at all possible, we are so hormonal for months after birth...try parenting your child, a week is better than none. As a Firstmom, I wish I would have had someone to guide me with the adoption industry. Please do not rush, we think we cannot handle another child, finances, oops pregnancy, father is no good, another mans baby, etc., etc., All issues are temporary, when we relinquish it is permanent, with life long circumstances. We also are in the mind-set, we will be giving our child a better life ..he will get all you cannot give him! NOT true, we are handing our children to virtual strangers, home study approved-check! Married- two parent couple-check, nice home- check. But these people, have issues just like you and I...they lose jobs, lose their homes, become alcoholics, have affairs, become medicated for depression, can even be a pedophile, and divorce....just like the rest...we are throwing them out there to have a DIFFERENT life, not a BETTER life! Had I known or thought of this, I would not be Firstmom 22 yrs, in the making! No one can love and protect our child as well as its very own Mother! Please get counseling, wait to decide after your baby is born. It will be tough to know you kept 1 and felt you HAD to let 1 go...when in reality, unless this child is in danger(abuse,alcoho,sexual abuse), you really do not HAVE to! No matter how a child is concieved, it loves and bonds with its mother....9 months of knowing nobody but its Mother. Scent, sound, and being nurtured , loved, read to, talked to, and heard its Mothers voice each day , everyday....this child Loves only you! Blessings, do as your heart seeks, just do so, wisely, and as my Dad would say, let the "SPIRITS" GUIDE YOU, FOR ONE NEVER WALKS ALONE!

[RavenSong]

If I were you, I wouldn't take this dream as some sign from above. I do love the name Noah, though. Just remember that the "first" Noah went through many trials and tribulations, was ridiculed by all, and had to endure horrendous storms.

Dreams can be really strange when you're pregnant. I dreamt once that my son was actually a fish. It weirded me out big-time. (Lol, I just realized that his astrological sign is Pisces, the sign of the fish!)

Please, please, please take the time to say hello to your baby before saying goodbye. You may very well feel differently when when the nurse places him in your arms.

There are also no guarantees that adoptive parents will be better for him than you. They're only human beings, not super powers. Just like all human beings, they can get divorced, develop substance abuse problems and alcoholism, file bankruptcy, and a few even abuse their kids. (And I'm speaking from personal experience on the last one.)

Say hello to your little guy, and then make your decision. Just my two cents, which aren't worth very much, but I thought I should put them in here.

[SchmennaLeigh]

Sounds like you're having some doubts to me.

Are you being offered counseling independent from any agency that you may be working with?

[josh1788smom]

Dreams are a way of processing various stimuli from our consciousness. You may not notice something you notice while awake, but dream about it later. For your and your child's sake, please process whatever parenting plan you have, whether that be parenting your child, or placing your child, in your conscious mind not your subconscious mind. This type of decision should not be left to "signs". From what you typed, I took it as you were planning on parenting, but because you had thought about adoption previously, thought this dream was telling you to place your child. If that is the case, it sounds to me like you plan on parenting your child. Don't let a dream make you second guess that decision.

Good luck to you!!!!