[taramayrn]

I have deleted any posts which discuss abortion. I want to remind everyone that while we do allow our users to explore their options we do not promote abortion or allow our users to encourage abortion.

Thank you.....

[Jeremiahsmommy]

No advise, but wanted to say good luck to you and you're in my thoughts and prayers!

[cbowjl5]

Wow, the support I have seen here is phenomenal! You guys have been so great!

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[Boulderbabe]

I'm an Amom, so you know my place in the triad. But I'm also a single mom. I know how hard it is, but I also know it can be done and done well.

It sounds like you're an incredibly capable person. You're an experienced parent, you have a good job (which makes it a lot easier to manage the household), and you sound like an emotionally thoughtful and steady person who can manage the ups and downs of a houseful of little kids. If you have a pretty good support system around you, single parenting really can work. It takes a lot of energy, and you have to be VERY committed to it. But if you've got your kids as the most important priority in your life, you can do it.

I can only imagine what a difficult decision this is. If I can help you out by giving you any ideas about single parenting (or any recipes for the crockpot, ha!), please let me know.

[cbowjl5]

I didn't think I would revisit this site, but it is still in my "favorites" list and I found myself wanting to reread everything...

I am now 31 5/7 weeks. It has been an uncomplicated, although very uncomfortable pregnancy. I did not want to find out what it was so I still don't know if I'm having a boy or a girl.

To update you on my choice, it is to definitely keep the baby. I will not be separated from him or her and I look forward to the joys that he/she will bring. The dad, on the other hand, chose to walk away. I have not talked to him since around Thanksgiving. He decided to, in a sense, 'give the baby up to me'. I don't understand the logic and I think there is some dysfunctionality in his method of coping, but I try not to judge. He said he would call me to see how everything went sometime in April. Even as of Thanksgiving, he had still not told anyone besides that one friend. He copes with things by keeping them hidden so he doesn't have to deal with peoples reactions. He was not really the support I needed cause he was unable to get a handle of it for himself. His attitude never moved beyond 'poor me-I can't deal with this'. Once I recognized that he probably never would since he didn't know how to cope with things in a healthy way, I bid him adieu and good riddance--last thing I need is another dysfunctional man in my life!

I'm doing ok...telling family and friends was so hard! I waited til I was around 14 weeks to tell my family. I told my ex husband and strangely enough, he sometimes acts like he wants it to be his. He is ok now but, boy oh boy, did he give me hell at times! His family has been great, friends and my family have been great. I have everything I need!

Maybe I will revisit after the baby is born---scheduled C-section on March 25th. Keep me in your thoughts and prayers.
Sincerely, C.

[taramayrn]

Thank you so much for the update C. I am sorry to hear the bdad has decided to walk away, but I hope once he sees his child he changes his mind and is willing to play a part in the baby's life.
I'm glad your friends and family have been supportive.
Take care and please come back after you've had the baby.

Best of luck...

[NJNative]

That you will be having this baby on my birthday! Which of course will bring him or her incredible good luck!

Glad to hear everything has gone well for you physically. Perhaps this baby has come for a special reason.

Enjoy the baby!

Robin

[josh1788smom]

Congratulations - just wanted to post my continued support to you. Your post reminded me of a family I know - I used to coach their son. The mom had a daughter young (like 16) - later she married and had 2 sons with her husband. She and her husband unfortunately divorced when the boys were in grade school. She got pregnant from a guy she was dating. They never got together, and while she was pregnant he said he was going to force a paternity test to prove it wasn't his. Anyhow, the baby was born - it's a little boy. The bio-dad loves him and has totally acknowledged him, and the ex-husband treats him as one of his own. When I coached the younger son, the ex-husband was always still involved in all the kids' lives, even the older daughter that was not his. He apparently has taken that love to the younger son that is also not his. I guess he figures these people (the daughter and son) are his kids' brother and sister, so he treats them as if they are his own.

Hope the best works out in your situation for you and all your kids!!

[bromanchik]

Congratulations! Please isit us again and post a picture if you can.