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I'm 14 and i think i'm pregnant. I don't know how to tell my parents or my ex boyfriend(baby's father)who is also 14. Please help me? Email me at Geniee11@cs.com

[martinipuppy]

dont worry i am going through the same thing but im 15 and my boyfreind is 18.. im not sure if i am pregnant but i am really scared.. im late and i feel really wierd
I'm feeling so wierd.. i have never felt this before.. maybe we can keep each other posted on our events.. u can e-mail me or go though this!
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[Roxanne]

I'm sorry for you. I was pregnet at 14. Different circumstances. But none the less . Your whole life is about to change. You'll find out real soon. Who your friends are. Who you can rely on. And your relationship with your parents will never be the same. My advise is. Grow up as fast as you can. Be mature. Be responsible. I pray you have a close relationship with your parents. Even if you do,expect trama. Mine beat me when they found out. And sent me away. But I knew lots of young mothers who's families helped them ever step of the way. Abortion isn't the answer. I have known lots of women who have had them and had nightmares for years. Heard babies crying. And even couldn't have kids later. God wants you to have this baby. If you decide to keep the baby with family support . Your lucky. But most of us don't have our families blessings. It will cause termoil. But most families get thru it just fine. I gave my son up. Now I'm searching. 27 years later. Now with the search. My mom has regreted not helping me keep my son. But I know I couldn't of given him the love and respect and support he deserved. I didn't have an option. You may not have an option. But I do know that God will place your baby in a home that is good for the baby, if you ask him to guide you. These next few months will be very hard on your family. Your boyfriend and his family and you. Stay healthy. Think of your baby first. What is best for him/her. Where the baby can get the most love possible. In a protected enviroment. I suggest a church adoption. Least you know he wouldn't be raised around Drugs or alcohol. And an open adoption. So you can keep track of his/her progress in school. or health issues. Just be smart. Think of what is the best for the baby. And forgive your self. We all make stupid mistakes. Even if you love the father. It may not be a strong enough love to make a family. You both will have to give up a great deal of your life. Having a baby and keeping it. Commits you to a life time of sacrifice. Your needs will not come before the childs. If you want something. His/her needs will have to come first. Sorry honey. Keeping him/her will take away your childhood emediately. Your a mom now. Think like it. What is Best for both you and the baby. Your family . And the fathers family and him. I Wish I could hold you and hug you. I know how scared you are. I will add you to a prayer line. And will forward this to a few women who have made the same choice. Hopefully someone can help me with this decision. But your not the first girl. We all make mistakes. Part of life. Love yourself. And love that baby. For his/her life time. Write him/her a letter. Add it to the files, when you give him/her up. If you do. Write me. Anytime. I will be there for you and Martinipuppy. God bless you girls. Love is strong. Trust. God has a plan. Don't wiggy out. Its not good for the baby. Stay straight. Roxy