[lauren100]

Hi everyone,

Firstly after reading some of your stories i feel better already. just knowing im not the only one in need of advice.

i'm 21 and live and work in Paris with my boyfriend. We recently found out im 10weeks pregnant. It was shocking for us as the pregnancy was unplanned. At first I took the news in my stride. I told my mum as fortunately she was visiting the next day, and talked through my options calmly and openly with my boyfriend and we decided were not ready for a baby and abortion would be the best and fairest option for us. However, since then things have crumbled down on me.

My mum, who at first appeared to be simply supporting My decision has got it into her head that im keeping the baby and has been making uncomfortable comments like 'this is the best buggie' 'take these iron tablets' 'what names do u like?' the list is endless.

Im suffering from terrible nausea all day long and am pushing my boyfriend away, infact his smell strangely triggers my sickness and i cant bare to be near him.

At work i had some racial abuse which my company chose to ignore, and as im a strong person so did i but im guessing due to my hormone changes its the reason i cant face work or those bullies. I have to face children at work as part of my job and don't want to put my mood on them. but, at the same time im starting to feel very depressed and like a couch potato by not going. im normally a very active happy girl. i dont want to see my friends or go out full stop!

finally, and probably worst of all, the doctors here in france are very unsupportive and judgemental. i just had an appointment with one and left crying. the receptionist also refused to let me talk to a different general doctor after demanding infront of a room full of patients why i needed too saying i didnt need time off work as pregnancy is not an illness.i felt so alone and embarrassed. i just needed to talk, maybe be i am over reacting but its just how i feel, i cant help it. appart from my boyfriend i dont have anyone else here to talk too and i push him away anyway.

Phew! feeling lighter now ive opened up. please, if u feel u can help, id really really appreciate it. Even if its just say pull yourself together, things aren't so bad.

Lauren xx

[StacyKelly2]

I read your post and I cannot imagine what you must be going through. I am not sure if you are still thinking abortion or keeping the baby or adoption. Regardless of what choice you make everyone will always have their opinions. You need to chose what is best for you and your baby and find peace in that choice. I would think everything seems to be crumbling down because you are just going through so much emotionally anyway. Remember you cannot please everyone....Sometimes things in life are not planned but work out well in the end. Prayer is what will give you strength and peace....This forum will help you and give you some helpful information you may need. Please if you need someone to listen you can pm me. You will know in your heart what is best for you to do...

[SchmennaLeigh]

Lauren; I'm not certain why your mother's comments have any baring on your decision to abort or not. Was she going to pay for it? Perhaps she sees your lack of scurrying off to have an abortion as soon as you mentioned it as your attempt to let her know that it wasn't what you really wanted, so she's attempting to be supportive in her own way.

What do YOU want? What can YOU live with?

And, for the record, find a new doctor.

[EmmaLeigh2882]

Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

[InBlindFaith]

Lauren - you need to do what is right for you. Don't let anyone try to pressure you into a decision...you will be the one living with the decision you will be making.

BTW, I highly recommend finding a new doctor.

((((HUGS))))

[lauren100]

Thank you so so much. you ca'nt imagine how much better i feel after reading your reply. x