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10-07-2006, 06:36 PM
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Can I get your opinions?
Ok, so I was contacted yesterday by a Potential Bmom. She saw an ad we had placed in a newspaper and called us.
She sounded completely confident in her choice to place, and she knew what she wanted and such. She seemed to really like us, and asked to come here to visit to get to know us better since she is due soon. She told me to talk it over with my DH and call her back. I did call her back, and she wasn't able to talk at the time. that was last night. I've called twice today, both times no answer. I did leave a message once. Am I holding on to false hope that she did really want to meet us? I thought we had such a great connection, and she seemed to be so adament about wanting to place for adoption, and she didn't like going through an agency or lawyer to meet adoptive parents. What is your opinions? I don;t want to call anymore because that is just obnoxious, which I do not want to be. 
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10-07-2006, 06:47 PM
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Maybe she had plans this weekend. Fall weddings are big the first weekend of Octber as well as other local celebrations. Our local Oktoberfest, complete with saurkraut and pork!, was going on this weekend. We spent some time in the city, eating great food and taking in some awesome art and music.
That said, even an "adamant" Mother considering placement can have a change of heart and mind. You've called twice today. It's a weekend. At this point, she will call back if she is interested in taking the relationship to the next spot. I, personally, may offer one more phone call on Monday evening if she hasn't responded. And then I'd just, again personally, have to let it go for my own sake of mind. If that made sense. Hang in! 
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10-08-2006, 11:45 AM
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My first thought was maybe she wasn't home and was busy. Jenna gave you some great advice.
Hopefully you hear from her soon.
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10-08-2006, 08:14 PM
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I would also just give her one more call on Monday and leave it at that. She may just need a little time to absorb or she may have just been busy! Whatever the case, you want a birthmother that is solid in her choice and if she truly wants to meet you, she will call! Good luck.
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10-08-2006, 08:17 PM
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Maybe there was someone around that made it uncomfortable to be able to talk . I probably would let her lead now, she will call you when/if she is ready, Hang in there
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