[birthmomwithquestion]

I am hoping some one can help me, I am a mom to one but I am pregnant again and I have choose adoption, I know this decision is the only one for me, I was in a Abusive relationship and I know that I am not able mind or body to be a mom to a infant, I am only in my 2nd trimester but the questions I have is, I am not huge but I have no car and no money and no way if I got a job to get there, I live with my mom and I am almost 30 and she wants me to pay her 75.00 a wk or get out, now I have found a loving and wondrful family who has already done more for me than they should but I need to know what is the laws when it comes to something like this can you please tell me, Thanks **

[babydubs5]

it all depends on the state you are in. I would try to find out about the specifics, either from a lawyer (who should offer free BMom consults) or an agency, or by googling it.

I hope everything works out for you. I hope you find the info you need.

[SchmennaLeigh]

Laws regarding what?

Don't sell yourself short: until the child is born and the TPR is signed, you are the child's Mother, not a birthmother. Enjoy this time. *hugs*

[kakuehl]

Kora, you haven't posted since the first one. What kind of questions do you have. How would you like us to support you?

[birthmomwithquestion]

I do not mean selling my baby I mean to help me live and I am in ca?

[birthmomwithquestion]

Hope that makes sence, the Amom said she has to follow laws and I just want to know how much does the law say I am allowed. Thanks

[Lissa]

Every state's adoption laws are different. In KY mothers are allowed to ask for anything from the Potential Adoptive Parent of her child as long as it pertains in some way to the well being of the child. This includes room and board etc. I learned this while doing research about adoption when we were contemplating the adoption of our daughter Lydia. Where I found most of the information was The Cabinet of Health and Family Services Page. You may want to start there (or California's equivalent) while searching about the particulars in your state.
I agree you need to speak with a lawyer if possible and I also agree you should look into trying to find resources available to you so you can parent your child.
I love our daughter very much and I don't regret adopting her...but I also wish she could be with her faraway mother too.
I hope this helps!

[riverview]

here is the link from adoption.com ,I do believe you are in california ...Hope this helps.
California Adoption Laws -

[SchmennaLeigh]

9 Alabama, California, Indiana, Maine, and Wisconsin specify a dollar amount in statute for some specific services

Statutes-at-a-Glance: State Regulation of Adoption Expenses

You need to research what the limit is set by California law.

[birthmomwithquestion]

Do you know any Board that I could get some help please, I am desperate to know these questions to my answers and I am sure you do not have time to help me. I just needed some help. Bye

[SchmennaLeigh]

Yes. It's called your local state assistance office. They will get you signed up for medicaid and any other financial assistance that you are eligible for.

[birthmomwithquestion]

Thanks that was lot of help...live on the streets until then...THANKS

[birthmomwithquestion]

Yes. It's called your local state assistance office. They will get you signed up for medicaid and any other financial assistance that you are eligible for.

Please don't waste your time, being mean to me no more.

[SchmennaLeigh]

Uhm, I wasn't being mean. I was telling you where to go.

[birthmomwithquestion]

I have Medical and all and Food stamps they don't help with rent and the question I was asking was, How much can I ask my Amom for and it be legal....Is that so hard for any one to answer for me. I was really thinking this board might be of help to me its not.....so far....