[conley2adopt]

When my husband and I went to adopt for the first time we signed with an agency that did nothing for us but take money so I know how you feel when you are trying to find the right one. We ended up putting our profile on parent profiles and our birthmom found us there. We did everything through our attorney's. We paid for her attorney and then ours. It worked out well. Hope this may help if you find someone online to adopt your baby. Good Luck to you on your journey!

[Makaylah]

I am disturbed at the number of messages I've had sent to me in private asking for my baby.

Is there no place left on the internet for birthparents to find support without being bombarded with requests for their unborn child?

This is disgusting.

[Emster]

you know, makaylah, that you can have those people banned from the site, hopefully eliminating this happening to someone else. Sorry you couldn't just find some plain old support here that you were looking for. Email a moderator who will take action.

All my best to you.

[patientlywaiting]

Makaylah
I totally agree with you. You should be able to post anything you like on this site and have others respect the situation you are facing. As potential adoptive parents, we come here for support, advice and information without being bombarded with emails.

Shame on all of you that do this.

[taramayrn]

Makaylah, it is NOT okay for ANYONE to be sending you pm's asking to adopt your baby. If you haven't already, please forward these pm's to either myself or another FM or CM, so we can take action against these people who have broken the TOS.

[Birth4Mom3]

Originally Posted by Makaylah

I am disturbed at the number of messages I've had sent to me in private asking for my baby.

Is there no place left on the internet for birthparents to find support without being bombarded with requests for their unborn child?

This is disgusting.

Please report them - each and every single one. It IS disgusting! I'm sorry you've had to put up with that when you came in for support.

[Praying4ABIRTHMOM]

Quote:
Originally Posted by Praying4ABIRTHMOM
Hello would like to offer a Friend, If you want one, you can talk to me about anything.

Just being a Friend!

I am very sorry that she took it as I wanted her baby, I only wanted to be a FRIEND....

[conley2adopt]

Originally Posted by Makaylah

I am disturbed at the number of messages I've had sent to me in private asking for my baby.

Is there no place left on the internet for birthparents to find support without being bombarded with requests for their unborn child?

This is disgusting.

Wow! I can't believe the nerve that some people have. I am so sorry! We were desperate to have a child, but I would never ever think of doing this to someone! You must be feeling very hurt. I am sending prayers of strength to you!

[tyiakoum]

The second you click on the "birthparents" link, it takes you to the TOS page which specifically states, NO PM'ing expecting women.

No one should be so bold or so desperate for a child that they violate these terms. These boards especially should be held to a higher standard. The women who post here are under enormous stress and it's unfair.

shame on those of you who violated these terms and who are just using these boards to harass expecting moms.

they come here for support and wisdom. not for "I'll be your FRIEND, please email me back". I'm sure that these women have plenty of friends, but none who are in the same position as they are, so therefore, that is why they come here for HELP.

[Praying4ABIRTHMOM]

I am sorry and I want never use "PM" again. Sorry

[Birth4Mom3]

She said she was "bombarded" with specific requests for her baby. I don't think she was calling you out specifically.

[Makaylah]

Thank you to everyone who has responded so far. I've been looking at a lot of websites that have waiting parents. How do you go about communicating with these people? Everyone I've emailed so far has responded with a curt (and semi rude) response of "Contact our attorney".

What is the purpose of having an email address published if you are going to respond in that way? What if I want to know more about them before I start talking to their attorney? What if I don't want to talk to their attorney at all and I want to use my own?

This is just so silly and I can only assume that things are being done this way because of all of the people out there trying to scam.

Any suggestions on ways to reach out and actually talk to these people before getting involved with their agency or attorney? Can't a girl just ask a few questions?

[SchmennaLeigh]

I don't know why they would respond like that, Makaylah. However, I personally would have taken that as a sign to write them off of my list of potential parents for my child. Mind boggling, really.

I don't know if I have any specific advice other than people who are honestly interested in both you and your child will be willing to talk, openly and honestly. True, many are protecting themselves from previous or threats of scam artists but... still... you can't be held responsible for the actions of others.

Best of luck.

[patientlywaiting]

I agree with you Jenna, I think they are worried about being contacted by someone who is scamming. I am registered in Canada and just finished a lengthy, on line relationship with someone that was trying to scam me. It was very emotional, but at least I was able to see it before any process started to happen.

Even though I have experienced this, would I communicate with the next person that emails me? Absolutely. Just because there is 1 bad egg out there, it doesn't mean everyone is out to scam me. It is a shame, however, Makaylah for you. Actually trying to connect with someone you think might be good parents to your child and you are getting the cold shoulder.

There are lots of profiles posted on the internet and I can't believe this is how they respond to you. I look at it like they are not the perfect family for you. Keep looking, you will find them.

Good Luck!!

[happygmom]

Ugh! I am sorry that you are being bombarded by the adoption dregs. JGAM - if they unethical enough to ignore simple forum ethics - why on earth do they think that they are worthy to be parents? Gag!!

That said (and I feel so much better) Makaylah - Are you happy with the family who adopted your first child? Although they are not ready to adopt another child, perhaps they know a family who is interested in adoption. My daughter decided not to place but when we discused adoption with her, the familes that we were most comfortable with were friends of friends. "Birds of feather" after all. Perhaps private adoption is the best in your situation.

Happy G'Ma