[a guy tim]

I have a serious problem. My girlfriend and I have a long distance relationship. I live in Georgia, right by the Florida border, but she lives all the way in Iowa. She used to live in my town, but then her family moved up there. We told each other we will still try to keep it going. We talked almost every day on the phone or on msn messenger. Lately she started pressuring me into sex. I, being stupid, told her that I will do whatever she wants, because I loved her.

A few weeks ago, my girlfriend and I had sex while I was visiting her. I immediately regretted doing it and had a bad feeling. She called me up the other day telling me that she thinks she is pregnant. I have no idea what to do now. I am so nervous I can't sleep and I have no appetite. I am so worried about the future, about what I am going to do if she is pregnant. Right now, I am going into my senior year of high school and she is going to be a junior. I realize that this could mess up our lives, but she doesn't understand the gravity of the situation. So far only a few close friends know about it, but if my parents found out, they would kill me. My life as I know it would be over. I am worried about her too. I tried talking to her about what we are going to do, but she tells me that she isn't worried about that. She says that what she is worrying about is if I will stay or not. I don’t know what to do. Right now I am feeling a little bit used and betrayed because I feel she pressured me into having sex. I am trying to calm down, but I can't. All I have been thinking about is what is going to happen. I know that my parents CANNOT find out or my life is over. But at the same time, I know that the more I hide it, the more it will come out.

Our parents don't know each other personally, and hers didn't even really know we were going out, so I am not too worried about them telling my parents. My girlfriend told me that she will say that it is another guy. But even if they do not tell my parents, my girlfriend still has friends here in GA. Some of her friends' parents are friends with my parents, so I am worrying that if they find out she is pregnant, they will put one and one together and think that I am the father. Then they will tell their parents, and their parents will tell mine. I feel bad for thinking about leaving her now, but I do not see a way that I can still stay in contact without my parents finding out.

This whole situation has gotten me sick, I fear for our futures. I cannot stop thinking about what she is going to do. Having a baby in high school could be devastating. This is all I think about anymore, I am so scared right now. I am usually not the kind of guy that cries, but a few nights ago, I didn't sleep, I was crying in my bed for the entire night. I am so confused and do not know what to do. Please, if you have any suggestions on what we should do, please tell me.

[michellesnook]

Has your girlfriend taken a pregnancy test yet? Lots of teenage girls have strange delays with their periods, especially if she's worried about stuff or going through a lot of stress.

The first thing she should do is to find out if she is really pregnant, and then you can go from there. You might be making yourself sick for no reason!!

Hang in there!

[a guy tim]

She told me that she is going to try and go to a clinic by her house on Wednesday. So now I just have to wait and see.

[Mommy24]

Tim, I am not sure how old you are, but I am guessing around 17 or 18, First let me say, Please go to your parents! I know it is hard and you feel like it is the worst thing in the world,but you are going to need support for yourself, you may not be pregnant but you are still looking at being a dad. They may be upset initially but in time they will come around, you need people to help you stand up for what you want also.

Has she taken a pregnancy test? I see that she is going to the clinic on Wednesday, please try and go with her, she will need you and you will need to see with your own eyes a positive pregnancy test. Feel free to Pm me if I can help

[katgravchuleta]

Dear a guy tim,
I know as a teen you think your world is over, I am by no means trying to patronize you, but if your parents love you, yah maybe they will be a little upset at first, but they will help you through. If not private message me anytime, and I agree you need to find out for sure if she really is pregnant before you worry yourself sick. It may be a false alarm, and you can move on quickly knowing better next time. If you find out otherwise tell your parents, you are always going to fear the worst when it comes to confronting the people you love with something you have bad feelings about. If you are going to be a father, discuss adoption with your girlfriend or may be even a family member adopting if you feel you aren't in the right place in your life for a child. If you have a pastor or youth minister near you go talk to them. the fact is no matter how hard it seems " God will not give you more than you can handle" you may not believe that til it over, but it is very true. God Bless you, I will keep you in my prayers
Kat

[krojano]

hi becoming a teen parent isn't the end for you it could be the start of a great life for you and the child. i was young went i got pregnant. my mother was furious and said terrible sort of things to me. months went by and her fury slowly went away. But the time i was ready to deliver she was excited and could not wait for the baby to come at times you would think she was pregnant watching everything i did and ate.Now she is a wonderful grandmother. i know right now your really scared because it's the thought of not knowing. But as soon as you do you should tell your parent the sooner they know the sooner they should adjust to the thought of having a grandchild.Also tell your gilrfriend to tell her parents asap if she turns out to be pregnant.The are certain test and prenantal vitamins she will need to take , my baby was lucky that nothing was wrong because i was so scared i didn't tell my mother till i was 5 1/2 months prenant the doctor imformed me of so much i didn't know. Just be careful next you decide to have sex so you don't have to worry. Take care good luck.

[a guy tim]

Thanks for all the help and encouragement, everyone. Turns out I was worrying for nothing, the test came out negative.