[numbr1dbcksfan]

Ashlee

I think the idea to utilize your counselor is great. If you do not even want to continue this pregnancy, then the counselor may be able to help you find some place that takes payments or some kind of program.. or something. If you want to use a medical (pill) abortion, your time is very limited, though.

Focus on the choice of whether to continue your pregnancy or not right now...

Then if you choose to, sort through whether you want to parent or not... let us know if you need more information from us.

((HUG))

[numbr1dbcksfan]

I agree, awaiting. I thought it was well thought out for being the first post on the board. She may not be aware of the terminology politics that we play...

Welcome, Beth! You'll catch on!

Christine

[paigeturner]

Ashlee,

Christine just gave you excellent advice. Step one is whether or not you want to continue the pregnancy. Take the issues one at a time. My thoughts are with you.

[Kippa Herring]

Originally Posted by AwaitingBeloved

I was actually thinking about this thread on my drive into work this morning.

I'm going to defend Beth's words here. I can certainly see where it could be a hard thing for some people to hear.. And I agree, it is no person's job or responsibility to give such a gift to a childless couple. That's not what I'm agreeing with. And I'm not sure that was entirely Beth's point, but I could be wrong.

What I do agree with, is that parenting, any kind of parenting.. be it biological, adoptive, foster, guardianship, etc, is a blessed gift. I also believe that every life is a gift. I chose to read Beth's post as a pro-life statement more than anything else.

"There is no telling what extraordinary gifts you carry in the life inside you." I completely agree with this.

I think the focus here should be on the OP, and trying to help her through whatever she decides she needs to do. No matter what she decides, her life is going to be different after this. Life after adoption, is different, life as a parent, is different, life after abortion is also different.

We need to be here for Ashlee, IMO.

I doubt if anyone here is capable of being objective about her situation. That's why I think the best advice has been to suggest that she finds a professional counsellor who has no other agenda than to help her come to her own decision.

[AwaitingBeloved]

Originally Posted by Kippa Herring

I doubt if anyone here is capable of being objective about her situation. That's why I think the best advice has been to suggest that she finds a professional counsellor who has no other agenda than to help her come to her own decision.

You are right, Kippa. None of us are in a position to tell her what to do, and I don't think anyone has (though, I've been known to miss these things!) Just trying to be supportive.

I'm really curious to know how Ashlee is doing. I hope she posts again.

[Kippa Herring]

Originally Posted by AwaitingBeloved

You are right, Kippa. None of us are in a position to tell her what to do, and I don't think anyone has (though, I've been known to miss these things!)

I just felt that it had been suggested to her what she ought not do.

[crick]

Ashlee - Welcome to the forums and I hope you will receive the support you are searching for here on the forums.

Just wanted to let you know that we are a support site and not a matching site. Sometimes though you might receive private messages soliciting for your unborn child. This is not allowed. If you should receive any private messages that are soliciting or should offer options you are not comfortable with, please do forward those pm's to a moderator.

Crick, Echaos, Leaabc123, MrsSmith or Tigger27 - any of us would be able to handle these unallowed private messages.

We want this site to focus on support and do not tolerate any solicitation.

Best of luck to you!
Crick
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[ashlee20]

I know that I do NOT want to continue the pregnancy..the only problem I have is that there are no crisis centers around here..i've looked...and I don't have an extra 500 dollars sitting around to have an abortion, but I WILL NOT continue it no matter what...thanks to everyone for your thoughts and prayers though, I really appreciate it..

[paigeturner]

Ashlee,

A medical abortion is simply a perscription and should NOT cost $500. Please contact Planned Parenthood ASAP. My thoughts are with you.

[numbr1dbcksfan]

Right, listen to Paige. There must be something in the area if you live at a college.... if you PM one of us maybe we can look for you...

[paigeturner]

I'd be willing to help you look as well. Don't hesitate to ask!

[AwaitingBeloved]

Hi Ashlee,
Absolutely, reach out, let us help you look for a center where you can go and have something done in a medical setting.

I am so sorry that you are going through this.

[Montraviatommyg]

Ashlee,

Loads of hugs coming your way as you have to do what's right for you.

My prayers are with you.

Pip

[Jacob's Mama]

I cannot believe that everyone is supporting an abortion and regarding life as something that can just be ended with a quick little visit to the doctor or a pill. No matter what, I realize that none of the options available for Ashlee are ideal for her. However, how can it be easier to move on with life after killing your baby instead of giving it life (whether keeping the child or giving it up for adoption)? Ashlee is now responsible for making the best decision for the baby, not her.


Even women that feel that they were coerced into giving their child up for adoption...how can you think that abortion would have been a better option??

[AwaitingBeloved]

Jacob's mama,
I also would prefer that people not have abortions. But, that's not up to us to decide or to judge.

My biggest concern, is if Ashlee is going to go through with an abortion, that she have it done in a safe environment. The illegal "economical" hack jobs still happen. I'd rather see her have a safe procedure.