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05-05-2005, 09:29 PM
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WARNING: You will be banned if you solicit on these forums!
Please read before posting to this forum
Below is a reminder of the Terms of Service that applies to this forum 3. Community Websites are NOT places for adoptive parents or adoption professionals to solicit birthparents. So many people visit the Community Websites that birthmothers get "pounced on" from dozens of different people if this rule is not strictly observed. Adoption Media is committed to making the Community Websites places where birthparents feel safe. It is not appropriate for adoption professionals or hopeful parents to post "I can help" messages, or Internet addresses for birthmothers to visit, or to send this type of e-mail to birthmothers. 4. Conversely, it is not appropriate for birthparents to use the Community Websites to solicit adoptive parents. Are you pregnant and considering adoption? For your safety, we strongly recommend that you do not select adoptive parents or an adoption professional from the Community Websites. We have no way of know which parents on the message boards or other community services are qualified to adopt, and which professionals are reputable. Visit www.ParentProfiles.com to find information on hundreds of hopeful adoptive parents who have each met the pre-adoption requirements in their state. Visit www.AdoptionDirectory.com to find an adoption attorney, agency or other adoption professional. This is the ONE and ONLY warning that will be given to members who violate the above ToS either on this specific forum or by PM’ing members who post on this forum. This is a support forum, period. It is not a matching site or a networking site…if your purpose for being is to solicit a match (either birthparent or adoptive parent initiated) you are in the wrong place! There have been far to many instances of reports from both adoptive parents and birthparents regarding unsolicited PM’s trying to initiate a match. Reported violators will be permanently banned from the forums, so be sure and read the above bolded text carefully to make sure your post doesn’t violate the rules. If you have been contacted via Private Message by another member, and that message violates the above ToS, please forward those messages to one of the Moderators!
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Brandy
Adopted Adult :: Mother First Mother :: Wife In order to know where we're going, we have to understand where we've been. 
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#2
04-13-2006, 05:58 PM
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Sadly, I feel this thread needs to be resurrected so our newer members can view it. We do not give warnings in regards to solicitation – members who solicit, either expectant parents or hopeful adoptive parents, are banned without warning and without explanation!
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Brandy
Adopted Adult :: Mother First Mother :: Wife In order to know where we're going, we have to understand where we've been.
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07-25-2006, 07:43 PM
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Bump - this is taking place more and more often - and more and more people are being banned and reported to their ISP for violation of our Terms!
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Brandy
Adopted Adult :: Mother First Mother :: Wife In order to know where we're going, we have to understand where we've been.
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08-18-2006, 10:04 AM
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Bumping to make active - we're having a problem with this again!
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Brandy
Adopted Adult :: Mother First Mother :: Wife In order to know where we're going, we have to understand where we've been.
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08-26-2006, 06:11 AM
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Does it cost money and are they affiliated with adoption agency/ies?
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   Six months of breastfeeding! (and still going!!) Jenna
 Mom to two boys"This labeling This pointing This sensitive’s unraveling This sting I’ve been ignoring I feel it way down way down These versions of violence Sometimes subtle sometimes clear And the ones that go unnoticed Still leave their mark once disappeared" -Alanis, Versions of Violence I'm now a blogger for Adoption.com! Come read! http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com
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08-29-2006, 04:25 PM
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Bumping this as some members are not abiding by the rules.
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Six months of breastfeeding! (and still going!!) Jenna
Mom to two boys"This labeling This pointing This sensitive’s unraveling This sting I’ve been ignoring I feel it way down way down These versions of violence Sometimes subtle sometimes clear And the ones that go unnoticed Still leave their mark once disappeared" -Alanis, Versions of Violence I'm now a blogger for Adoption.com! Come read! http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com
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09-12-2006, 01:57 PM
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Question regarding policy
What do we do if **'s are asking for places they can go to look at multiple Aparents and they are also asking not to be PM'd because they are getting jumped on by numerous adoptive parents? BTW, Parent Profiles cost TONS of money for Aparents to be listed. Why not give Bparents who are soliciting for AGENCY websites access to parents who don't feel the need to pay their agency AND Parent Profiles. Yesterday, it was suggested BY A MODERATOR that people PM a ** with IP addresses but the policy says this isn't allowed either. What are **'s and A parents to do to try and answer each others' questions without getting bumped??? I'm not angry. Just frustrated - and feeling like it's okay for adoption.com to solicit for their Aparents at parent profiles, which kind of makes me mad, but I can understand because it's their forum.
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09-12-2006, 02:21 PM
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krajewskim,
We don't allow agency solicitation at all - period. We don't allow the posting of Agency websites, regardless of their non-profit status, period. I’ve read the post you posted on and at no time did that expectant mother ask for URL’s to places to view profiles – she asked how she should go about viewing more than 2-3 profiles at once. A great number of members have no problem at all with posting responses that support and give advice without violating our Forum rules – which state that you can’t discuss adoption agencies on our site – making recommendations to contact agencies falls in line with this. I’m not really sure what you’re looking for here – you seem to be angry that we allow a site sponsor to be discussed and I don’t know how to address that other than to tell you that without our sponsors, this site wouldn’t be here. For the record, Adoption.com does not own Parent Profiles – ParentProfiles.com is a paying sponsor of our site. We have never forbidden members from PM’ing members with agency recommendations – PM’ing an expectant mother with references to another profile services has never been forbidden – PM’ing an expectant mother with the link to YOUR profile, is forbidden and will get your account banned. FYI – the letters b and m together are used to identify a bodily function that the birthmothers on our site find offensive to be associated with – so we don’t use it. Additionally, most of the ladies looking for support on our Unplanned Pregnancy forum aren’t birthmothers – they are mothers or expectant mothers. A woman doesn’t become a birthmother until her rights have been terminated.
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Brandy
Adopted Adult :: Mother First Mother :: Wife In order to know where we're going, we have to understand where we've been.
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11-05-2006, 09:12 PM
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If you have any concerns, or feel you have been targetted by a member PLEASE contact a moderator immediately.
Last edited by SchmennaLeigh : 11-05-2006 at 09:33 PM.
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07-15-2007, 07:36 AM
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*sigh*
Got a report from a girl who came here looking for SUPPORT - and was FLOODED with requests to place her baby with (insert perfect couple here). THIS IS NOT A NETWORKING SITE! If you are pregnant and are contacted via this site to place your baby - consider that this couple/person is already breaking the rules to get what they want and they are doing it KNOWINGLY! Should someone who can't follow basic rules be trusted to follow rules more complex...like Openness Agreements and homestudy requirements? THIS IS NOT A NETWORKING SITE AND IF YOU ARE REPORTED FOR CONTACTING A PREGNANT WOMAN OFFERING LINKS TO YOUR EMAIL ADDRESS OR URL'S TO YOUR DEAR BIRTHMOTHER LETTER - YOU WILL BE BANNED WITHOUT FURTHER WARNING!
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Brandy
Adopted Adult :: Mother First Mother :: Wife In order to know where we're going, we have to understand where we've been.
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03-19-2008, 10:19 PM
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Bumping this!
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Community Moderator Michelle "I have learned that people won't remember what you said to them, they won't remember what you did to them, but they will always remember how you made them feel"
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