[Bmom to Joshua]

What is best for one may not be best for another. You are certainly entitled to your opinion but questioning her religion is a little out of line. Of course God gave her this child for a reason but his reason may have been to bless a family who could not have children with her child. I have not only heard of people getting pretty using birth control and condoms but have also heard of people getting pregnant after having their tubes tied. I'm very thankful that you have a wonderful life but not everyone comes from your "happy" place.

Please don't think I am now attacking you that is not at all my intention. I just hope you understand that not everyone can be as "comfortable" in their lives as you are and don't deserve to be judged for it.

[Bmom to Joshua]

If you have never given a child up for adoption or adopted a child yourself, why are you here? Just to give advice? Excuse me if I sound harsh but I think it would be difficult to give advice on a situation you have never experienced.

[Reginafl]

Dear Leigh,
I am Regina Leigh, I became pregnant at 18 while on birth control and the father used a condom. I have read through all of the responses to your request for help.
It is a hard decision to make, and you will go through a grieving period, I did and got a great deal of help by seeing a counsoler for 1 year after the birth, the adopted parents paid for it. I went in once a week and it made a huge difference. I did an open adoption with the help of a local attorney. My child is in the same state as I am I know where she lives and I picked her adoptive parents. I could not be a parent to her at the time she was born, but I knew from the moment I meant her adoptive parents they would be perfect. I have written letters ever few years to let them know where I am. I am now married with a girl 16 and a boy 14. I think of the baby girl I gave up and I know in my heart she is happy and loved. I hope someday she will find me I would love to see her. But I promised her parents I would never interfer with her life and I have stood by that promise. I did not want them to worry at the time of the birth that I would change my mind, so I flew to another state so the release papers could be signed right away. You must know in your heart it is the right thing for you and your baby. If you feel that it is, I would try looking up a local adoption attorney, I also got a lot of help from my OBGYN who was very supportive of my decision. One of the most important things I can tell you is have as many supportive people around you that you can. I had my mom, grandmother, aunts, brother, doctor and attorney. I will watch and see how things go for you. If you need to talk let me know.
God Bless you and your child.
Regina