[juli12887]

A couple weeks ago, I had unprotected sex with who is now my ex-boyfriend. I am a week late and haven't skipped a period in over a year. Last night, I accidentally sent a text message to him saying I was worried about it. It was supposed to go to a friend. So then we got into it. He already has a child and told me that if I am pregnant that I'm not keeping it. However, I am against abortion in most cases. Also, I don't want to give it up for adoption. I don't know what to do here. I'm only 17, I'm scared to tell my parents if I am. I don't think that they would be angry with me because my mom had her first child unmarried and my dad adopted her. I just don't know how to break the news or if I am. But I've been feeling overheated, tired, and nauseated lately. Any advice??

[KellyStacy]

The first thing you need to do is find out if you really are pregnant.Take a pregnancy test.Once you find out if you are then you should tell your parents.Regardless of what anybody says to you.Please always know the choice is yours and you are the one who will live with that choice for the rest of your life.Just from your post it seems you definitely want this baby and if that is your choice then you need to go with that.Being 17 is young but believe me there are plenty of single moms that are just as young and do well raising their babies.It sjust something you really need to consider everything changes and it is a big responsibility but if you are willing to make the changes you can most definitely do it.I can understand that you are scared to tell your parents that is only natural,but if you are pregnant hiding that fact from them could make things worse.Sooner or later they will know.Just pray and everything will be okay --go with what is in your heart.Hopefully everything will work out for you.If you need someone to listen you can pm me.I will gladly be a friend.God Bless

[mrsholyfield2]

definitely get a pregnancy test done and then start taking steps to prepare a life for you and your child. it won't be easy but when you hold and love that baby you will realize it will be worth it.

[juli12887]

I just want to say thank you to all of you that have replied and/or pmed me. I really appreciate it. I'm still not sure if I am pregnant or not. I'm going to get a test next week when I get paid. I have, however, decided that if I am indeed pregnant, I am keeping the baby whether I have the support of the father. He has made threats, but he doesn't scare me. And if I am, once I am absolutely certain I am pregnant, I am going to tell my parents. The past few days we have gotten along a lot better and I know that they will support and comfort me. Thanks again!

[mrsholyfield2]

if the babys father has been threatening you go to court and get an order of protection- you can usually obtain one either through the police or family court

[michellemartin]

I was 16 and pregnant and decided to parent. The best advice I can give is to tell your parents ASAP. They may be angry, but the longer you try to hide it the angrier they will be. I know from experience there. Also I would have told them differently. I think I would have said to my dad, "I know what I'm about to tell you will dissapoint you, but I really need your help." I think if I would have said it that way, he would have realized for one that I did need his help (my mom kicked me out at 15 and dad took me in once he realized I was going from one friends house to the next) and it would have taken him away from his anger a bit. Good luck and pm me if you want.

[carolinagirl829]

I told my parents before I was certain. But I did take a test. My friend got it for me b/c I was scared and had no way to get it. But I didn't know how well they werked. My mom took me to make sure it was accurate. And the lady used the same test I took. I hope all works out. My now ex was like that. He didn't threaten me but he told me I wasn't keeping it and called me a b*tch when I told him I'd call his momma to tell her. But she and I have a really good relationship.