[cynthia900]

Ashli

Just wanted to say I hope that you are doing well. I didn't want to intrude on you but let us know how you are doing - we still care

Cynthia

[carolinagirl829]

Hey all. I'm doing pretty good, schools going great. Sometimes I still get down when I see people with their babies or now that I have a few older friends who are pregnant. I mean I cant' change what happened, but it still sucks.
Other than that I'm doing pretty good. The birth father and I are considering getting back together, or atleast he is. I know I would, which is kinda a fault. But I love him. If we don't get together, I realized I kinda have feelings for this guy that's stood by me the whole time I was pregnant and before thent oo. He's a great guy too. All the guys that are interested in me are. I'm just so hung up over the ex I don't see anyone else. I know I won't be having sex for a LONG time so it's cool they'd understand without me having to explain the story or make one up. I dunno, I guess that's pretty much all for me.
Oooh, I'm going to Atlanta this weekend. Which is totally cool, It's kinda a REAL late b-day present since I couldn't go last time on my birthday. but I get to meet my mom's boyfriend and his son for the first time. and then I get to meet my uncle for the first time since I was an infant. So it's going to be one heck of a weekend. I totally can't wait. It's the biggest thing to happen to me since I got pregnant and it's just making things alot better for me. Anyways, I'll talk to you later.

[iwannabamommy]

Ashli,

So glad things are going better for you now. Keep your options open..you are young date new guys!! If you are meant to be with the ex then things will work out, for now thoughgo and explore all of your options. If there are guys wanting to date you go out and have fun!!!

Have a great time in Atlanta!!!

Pam

[carolinagirl829]

yeah, i had alot of fun this weekend. My photos
Those are from this weekend. I had alot of fun. Went to an Atlanta Braves game. That was awesome.
As far as guys, I have 2 liking me. One of which I would consider, but he's got an open relationship. and if I went out with him his "girlfriend" would hate me. But he's liked me for 4 years and she knows that. I don'tknow. I don't need a relationship, i just want one.

[mj77]

This may sound like a dumb question but I am curious of how you answer it. Why do you want a relationship, having a boyfriend now? Do you feel incomplete without a guy giving you attention? I felt that way when I was younger and just wondered if you do too. According to your profile, you say you are 18 now and you've mentioned you are in college. You have quite a road ahead of you that is bright and hopeful. Sorry to sound like such a mom to you, but why don't you focus on your school and let the boys wait for you. They will be there still, I promise. You are worth waiting for! IMHO, I think you are too good for those boys you are talking about to waiste your time being anymore than a friend to them, I just don't know if you believe it, but I do. Achieve your goals Ashli. Take care.

[carolinagirl829]

I'm one of those people who can't stand to be alone. Right now I'm just having fun, not committing to a certain person. But I really want to get back with my ex. We are both in college, a little under 2 hours from each other and it'd give us time to be apart still and work things out but still be together. We only broke up b/c I moved. but I came back and he had someone knew... rebound. But he's man enough to not drop someone new b/c the other option is open again. If he was then we wouldn't have been together so long. I'm glad for. Anyways, I dont know. I'm just living day by day. I might move to georgia and all the guys I'm considering know how I am, what I won't do and that it's not a forever thing. Maybe it is, but I'm not looking for forever right now. I am looking for Ashli's life.

[mj77]

I'm glad you are putting yourself first. I can imagine too the history you have with your ex bfriend and why you continue to feel that conection. I am also glad that you are respecting yourself though through all this. Take care.

[Hopeing_Mom]

There are lots of places you can get financial help from if you choose to keep the baby. But remember most are temporary aid and you shouldn't rely on them forever. But if you are planning to go to school hopefully you will be able to eventually take care of both of you. I suggest you go to the local health department and see what they have to offer. I am in Texas and here we have WIC ({women infant and children) that helps with formula, food that is necessary for a pregnant or nursing woman and food for young children (milk, eggs, cereal, peanut butter, juice, ect, there is also Medicaid to help with medical expenses and they know of programs to help with day care after the baby is born and training programs and fianancial aid for school

If you would like more info let me know I know of several other programs as well.

Sharon

[tobeafamily]

Sharon - it's very kind of you to offer this to Ashli. Perhaps you didn't read through the entire thread - she miscarried.

Regina

[Hopeing_Mom]

I apologize, I thought I had read all the pages but when I came back I realized I didn't. You are in my prayers.

Sharon

[linna]

Yes you can get help thruyour local social services ie food stamps ,WIC,maybe medicaid. Good luck with your choice and follow your heart and you will do the right thing.

[iteachtwo]

Your state should have a Medicaid program. Look, I am a single mother. Have been now for 19 yrs. I never chose to marry. I've also been thru the abortion situation. So, you could say I've done it all.

Single parenting is hard yet rewarding. Since you chose to come to an adoption website, it seems that you want to have the child rather than abort.

I would STRONGLY recommend that you 1. tell you parents 2. Seek non-judgemental advice from a Planned Parenthood prgram.

After you do those 2 things, you will be a little clearer about what you want to do. In my state, the following programs helped me. I later finished college, became a teacher, and no longer need those programs. Ther may be similar in your state.

Medicaid for medical
Welfare for financial help
The county has a rent subsidy program
The YMCA has a child-care subsidy program
The college had free child-care or a sliding scale based upon ability to pay.


Do not let anyone talk you into anything. This is a huge decision, and only you can make it. But, no matter what, continue with college! It doesn't matter what road you choose, your education is so incredibly important. Don't stop! Get your degree!

If you do choose to have and keep the child, you really should include the baby's father. He may not want to be a parent right now (or ever), but the child deserves to know his whole family, and deserves the support of both parents.


Good luck to you. Feel free to PM me, I'll offer you any words of wisdom that I can!
Susie

[iteachtwo]

Darn. I didn't read all the way to the next page either. Sorry!
Susie