[PinkRing5451]

I don't know what to do. I think I might be pregnant, and my boyfriend has made it very clear he doesn't want kids right now, and I agree, I mean, I'm only 17, but he doesn't know that I might be. I dont want to get a test, cuz I'm scared, and I mean I have two friends who are willing to go with me, but I don't know what to do. Im so scared right now. I need some support from someone who's been in this situation before, please help me..........Tiffany.

[aspenhall]

I'm sorry but I haven't been in your shoes......I do want to stress however that for your sanity and the sake of the baby's health I would go IMMEDIATELY and find out for sure YES or NO then you can start to make decisions. Thes first few months are pretty crucial for the baby's development and you want to make sure you aren't doing anything that could harm the (maybe) baby. The pregnancy test isn't anything to be scared of...you either are or you're not and taking the test won't change the fact. Most cities have clinics that will do the test for free. I assume you have done some at home tests as well?
I wish you all the best....keep us posted this forum has much to offer no matter the outcome!

[xarmyboy]

Talk to your parents. My girlfriend and I gave up a baby 20yrs ago and are now searching for him. I never told my folks what was going on until a couple of months ago. I am 39 now. They said that yeah they would have freaked at first back then but that they also probably would have adopted him. Parents can surprise you. You must also get tested to find out for sure. You may be worrying for nothing. Good luck.

[klagenfurt]

My dear you are the only one who can decide should you be pregnant what to do. You know your parents and you will know what their reaction to the news will be. As a mother myself I can tell you I will be upset in the beginning, which is normal behaviour but I will not cast my daughter out at all. I always tell my kids that should something like that happen to them, the child of that union will know who the father and who the mother is. Both my inlaws did not know their parents and both of them are already passed away. I know what it can do to a person not knowing the why and wherefore. Be strong. Even though you said you are only 17 and did not intend having children at this stage, you should have realised by doing the deed, something can happen. It is up to you now to do the right thing but firstly, find out if it is positive or negative.

[bromanchik]

Please go to a clinic and find out. Is there a teacher or counselor at school that you trust? Maybe they could help you tell your parents. Check out my organization's website by clicking the www below my post. Call the resource line. I may know of someone who can help you in your area.

[GinnyBinny]

I became pregnant right before my 17th birthday. I remember how scary it was when I started to think I might be pregnant. It was about 2 yrs ago. My bson just turned 2 in Jan. I was scared to buy the test too. One of my friends bought it for me, and was by my side when I saw the results of the test. I would really encourage you to have someone there while your waiting for the results. The three minutes seem like forever. My boyfriend was there right after I saw the results. I'm so glad I had both my friend and him there with me. I told my parents about two weeks after I took the test. I wish I had told them as soon as I found out. I was scared to tell them, but after they found out they were so supportive and it would of been so much better to of had them to talk to right after I found out.
Take the test as soon as you can. It may be negative.
There are many people here for you to talk to if you need to talk.
-Ginny

[ToriMaxwell44]

I would go get a test done at a clinic or do a home pregnancy test if you are scared to go to a clinic or doctor. Home pregnancy tests are usually reliable. I did a home pregnancy test and had my doctor do one and my home pregnancy test was right. I am pregnant. If you are pregnant you should get prenatal care. Also you don't need to make an adoption plan right now. You don't have to decide now what to do with the baby. You have 9 months to decide and you can even decide after the child is born. My counselor told me you dont have to decide while pregnant you can decide after the child is born or whenever you feel comfortable. Things can change for you in the next 9 or so months and you may want to parent.

[KellyStacy]

Tiffany you really do need to find out if your pregnant or not.That should be your first thing to do.Once you find out the truth on that you take it from there.Sometimes things happen at the wrong time sometimes things do not go as planned,but there is always help and hope out there.If you do find out that you are pregnant you need to tell your boyfriend.Both of you need to sit down and talk about the options you would have.Your boyfriend might feel he is way too young however you could feel differently.Please do not rush into a decision,this is something you will have to live with for your entire life.Raising a child especially at your ages can most definitely be hard especially without additional help.Do you have family that could atleast support or help you out? A child is the greatest gift that could ever be given,but for some cases timing can play a major role as to the final decision.Adoption is yet another choice but that is one that will take both of your consents and a choice both of you will need to come to.Believe me there are lots of couples who would love the opportunity to cherish and love a precious baby.May God bless you and your decision.

[ToriMaxwell44]

You need to do what is right for you and your boyfriend and your baby. Don't rush into any decision. Don't let anyone pressure you into anything. Take your time and decide.

[angel218]

Your going to be ok no matter what you decide. I was a teenage mother at 17 without the fathers help. My son is now 25 and doing very well. In the long run it is your choice. My mom was also had a teenage pregnacy and she chose adoption and now I am searching for my brother because my mom grieves for him every day. It is not easy searching. If you decide to keep your baby the one bit Of advice I can give you Is dont give up your education.I did and that is the only choice I regret. My son has given me alot of joy I know how you are feeling right now but every thing will work out ok.Just remember the choices you make now will stay with you for the rest of your life. Goodluck with your journey in life

[kaseydm]

Dear Tiffany,
I was 17 when i got pregnant with my first child...I know how you feel dear. But you must go get a test...You NEED to know for sure before you can move on with you life. There are options for you ...God will not give you more that you can handle. If you are pregnant I KNOW there is a Loveing home for that child.
I will be praying for you dear.
Don't panic...take a deep breath and ask your friends to go with you and get the test. You have to do that first hun .

All My Love & Prayers,[b]

[mommy2seany]

i too have been in your shoes, but I ended up keeping my child. My boyfriend and I worked things out and we have been together for a long time. My son is 10 months old and I am 16. Nothing is stopping you from doing what you want to do. Good Luck Darling!!

you can come to www.ehealthforum.com and talk to some girls if you wanna

[gnslngrsgirl]

I am 17, and I just had my little girl 3 months ago. My boyfriend and I both did not want a baby so young, so we took drastic measures to try and abort it on our own. Thank God they did not work! I gave her up for adoption, and my mom actually found out by accident. My boyfriend's mother doesn't know though. I did not get any pre-natal care for my baby, and she was born prematurley. She is a very healthy and happy little girl. I have an open adoption with the parents which means I get to be in contact with them. They share photos and updates, and one day I'll visit her. They tell her about her father and me all of the time. I encourage you to get tested. If it comes out positive there is a place in Texas called Gladney center, their page is www.gladney.org . Go there and read about options of adoption. Please...if you do not want this baby...I beg you not to have an abortion. If you are scared of what your parents will think...do some research on local or online support groups...this is a great one. I am always here to help. Just please don't make any hasty decisions. If you're not pregnant, go to a gynocologist and get birth control, and be responsible in taking it.

With Care,
-Sarah

[sspete]

Tiffany.....Bless your heart my heart goes out to you!!! I know how you feel, I have been in your shoes. You must find out if you are or are not first. The sooner you do this the better!!! If you are pregnant it is not going to go away, and you are only prolonging the inevitable. Please get a test!!!! Once you find out you will need to make some decisions. It is not going to be an easy road if the test is positive, but you must do what is best for you and your baby. I was sixteen and pregnant, and did not tell my mom until I was 7 months along. That means I did not receive pre-natal care until then also!!! I don't know where you live, but there are free clinics here in Texas, even in the smallest of towns. THere are also usually crisis pregnancy center is most cities. I urge you to get help from some where so you can find out the truth, and begin to prepare yourself for some decision you must make regarding your baby.

My thoughts and Prayers are with you.....Hang tight, and know that you can make it through this!!!!

Staci

[kat814]

Tiffany,
I first got pregnant when I was 15 and I was so scared that I didnt tell my mom till I was 7 1/2 months becuase I thought she would kick me out if it wasn't for my friend I don't know what I was planning to do I never went to the doctor. my friend was getting really scared. so i had to tell my mom and yes she was really upset with me but what mom wouldn't be if they actually love their children she helped me get through it but I was the one to raise my son. its not that after you tell the people you care most about it actually brings a sign of relief believe me I wasnt showing till the day after I told my mom. and I was still parting up until that day and I am so thankful now that he is healthy he could have gotten something really wrong for him i suggest that you go get the test then tell your parents if he don't want to take care of the child then hes not grown enough to have sex no offense please.