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Originally Posted By Jessegirl

When you are ready to tell family and friends that you are pregnant and choose not to parent be ready for the world to come out of the wood work and want to take that baby off your hands. Every relative is ready to jump in. I am looking at parents here but it's not making my family happy that I won't place my child under my nose. PLEASE....

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Originally Posted By jean

If I had a penny for everyone who offered to take my baby, I would never play the lottery again. I know that they are trying to be nice and helpful but it just seems that they aren't really paying attention to what I am saying I need to be ok with this chioce.
I just want you to know that you are not alone and most of the people never mentioned it agian after it was done.

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Originally Posted By Lydia

Telling family and friends is tough, whether they except or not is up to them. You are going to be going through emotions that are harder to deal with. If your family really cares than they will support your decision. If they don't than to bad. It is your life and you need to just follow your heart and do what is best. I know i have been there.

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Originally Posted By TenderSoul

I also had a family member that begged me to give her my son, the pressure was so hard to go through, but I really wanted a better life than what she could of gave him. I know feelings may have been hurt, but I was doing what was best for the child, and I don't know if I could of handled him being that close and me now regretting my decison.

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Originally Posted By lovestory

I think I could understand why you would like to choose someone outside of your family relm to parent your baby. I am sure that would be hard to be that close to the situation. Good luck, and prayers in your decision making.

Stephanie (lovestory@ivillage.com)

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Originally Posted By Jamie

I too did not want my baby being raised in my town.It's just to close.I was afraid that it would interfere with his childhood.I don't have family but I was aproached by tons of people offering to take my son.No, I had my mind made up & stuck with my agency.I have slected the perfect family.

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Originally Posted By Melissa Roberts

If it were me in your situation, I would thoroughly pray about it and let God lead me to do what's right. If it is God's will for your baby to have parents off of the internet he will make it all very clear, if it's not you will find what you are looking for elsewhere. It always helps if you ask for God's will to be done in your baby's life.

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Originally Posted By Lissa

The best advice I can give you is pray that God's will be done in your life, your baby's life, and your family's life and I promise you if you keep your trust in God everything will turn out just the way you NEED it to. Not everything happens the way you want it to, but if you keep your trust in God the best will come out of this.

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Originally Posted By Devon

I am pregnant, but I am not considering putting my baby up for adoption. I fully believe, that if you were adult enough to do the deed, youre adult enough to take care of your baby. I am only 17 years old, and I understand the responsibility of taking care of a baby. I am fully prepared to take care of my baby along with the father of the baby, who is also by the way my fiance. If you are pregnant and going with adoption, that's fine. I think you should tell everyone right away, ya know to get it off your shoulders. We told his family and my family as soon as we found out and we couldn't ahve more support. Trust me your family and friends will support your decision and they will still love you just the same.

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Originally Posted By Lauren

I understand your wanting to place outside the family, but i also wanted to say that i placed my daughter 10 and a half months ago with my sister. we live about 8 hours away from each other but i see her alot. it has worked out great. i never have to wonder how she is or what she is doing or where she is. i call everyday and talk to my daughter ( even though she has no idea what i am saying) and everyone in my family is grateful i did what i did. so try to understand that your baby is not just your family but thiers too, and they are also going to love and miss this child when he/she is gone. they may not just be trying to drive you crazy. i did choose a family, outside of my family, while i was pregnant but decided - just because i cant be mom doesnt mean i cant still be close to her. (but, remember, i still understand where you are coming from. everyone must do what they feel is right for them). good luck in what ever decision you make and God bless.