[SHELLYNY]

Just to share a personal story maybe it can help othr siblings...my mom had child out of wedlock in 60 she didnt even know she was prego.till it was to late...my grandmother senther ove to england to give birth,and to hide the fat of my mom being prego...after the birth of my brother my aunt adopted him... in my eyes and evybd' he couldnt of wanted any better parents than he had with my aunt and uncle..which are now both descesed.Well in 1989 my mom told me about who i thought was my couisn now bam...was my brother! at that time i had so many mix emotions about my mom and what happened but being raised in northern ireland a strict irish catholic parents i can see how times could have been to her.Now we are all closer...but i do sem to feel i missed out on another big brother ..funny thing was as kids when jim used to boss me around i'd say hey ya think your my brother or something...lol...joke was on me he was!

[shady_30]

Thanks that has helped!!

I have just found out that my mother had a son when she was in her early twenties and put him up for adoption. He contacted her a few days ago - after searching for her for 15 years. I am not sure what to think. While I am happy for her that now a missing piece of her life is found and also sad and shocked for what she has had to go through, i am also a little angry that my sister and I were never told of this before. I can understand her reasons for keeping it in the past - maybe she was afraid he didn't want to be contacted by her - or she found it too difficult to deal with - i also can't beleive she never tried to look for him.

My sister and I are not sure how to deal with this. Will he be angry at us? After all, she kept us and loved us but gave him away? Its strange too to find that I suddenly have a brother I always wnated and now a sister-in-law and a neice and nephew. I can understand what you say about feeling cheated out on having a brother too!! My sister I think is having a hard time coming to terms with the fact that she is no longer the eldest child!

It obvious he is rapped to have finally found my mother - his mother... I am not sure how I should accept him into my life. And I know that mum is very happy to have found him - more so than she is letting on. I can't imagine the heartache she must have gone through over the years and now what she will have to go through trying to get over any guilt she may feel for giving him up so long ago.

Did your brother know he was your brother? Or did he always think you were cousins?

[SHELLYNY]

WELL FIRST STEP SUPPORT YOUR MOTHER, HELP HER WITH ALL THE EMOTIONS THATS GOING THRU HER..SOMEONE SHE GAVE LIFE AND GAVE AWAY IS COMMING BACK INTO HER LIFE...AND FOR YOURSELF AND SISTER JUST TRY TO THINK WHAT HE MUST BE THINKING..BOTH OF YOU WILL BE FINE ..ENJOY THE MOMENT ..IM SURE HE WILL ENVY BOTH OF YOU FOR THE YRS YOU HAD WITH YOUR MOM THAT HE MISSED OUT ON..AND YOUR MOM PERSONAL BUSINESS WAS EXCATLY THAT HER BUSINESS..LIKE IT WAS WITH MY MOM,I WAS LIKE HOW COULD YOU HIDE THIS FROM ME??BUT REALLY IM HER DAUGHTER NOT HER MOTHER...LOL..JUST GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER THE SISTER AND BROTHERLY LOVE DOESNT HAPPEN IN A SECOND.. BUT TRUST ME THERE WILL BE ALITTLE ENERGY IN YOUR HEART PLEASE FEEL FREE TO EMAIL ME AT INTENSETY65@AOL.COM

[SHELLYNY]

JIM KNEW HE WAS MY BROTHER SINCE HE WAS 12 FOUND SOME INFO WHICH HE QUESTIONED MY AUNT AND UNCLE...YOU KNOW JIM WAS A VERY LUCKY GUY FOR WHAT MY MA DID HE HAD THE BEST PARENTS EVER...AND LET THE ANGER GO FOR NOT KNOWING ABOUT YOUR BROTHER BE THERE FOR HIM ACCEOT HIM REMEMBER HE WAS A CHILD NOW LOOKING FOR HIS ROOTS BLOOD IS THICKER THAN WATER

[kate 40]

when i traced my bmother i also found out that i had 2 full sisters and a full brother, i wasnt angry when i met them i was really happy it changed everything, my only regret is that my amum and adad didnt tell me, they knew i had a sister the other two came after i was adopted, if i knew about my sister i would have traced a lot earlier than i did, its a bonus having siblings. it wasnt there fault or mine, i always refer to them being my sisters and brothers, but call bparents by their first names,

[susspa]

Was interested to reading everyone's stories about newfound siblings.

I was adopted at 2. My bmum has two children - a boy and a girl (4 and 6 yrs younger than me). They were only recently told about me - since I made contact with b-mum, although "brother" found photos and papers when he was 11 so has had a fair idea since then.

My bdad also has 2 children - 14 and 12ish - they've known about me since before I made contact and have in the past asked whether their dad thought I wd ever make contact - coincedentally they asked that about a month before I did!

Will be meeting bdad's other children in a couple of weeks - I guess coz they're younger and have known about me for a while I am less nervous about meeting them. Will prob meet bmum's other children when I go visit in the Summer.

[SHELLYNY]

He Knew ,,,when He Was 12