[Weebsey]

Hi everyone,

I'd just like to share my story, hopefully to offer some encouragement, and maybe a little insight for those thinking about finding birth parents.

O.K well I'm 18, have been adopted since about the age of 2, and therefore didn't remember my parents, I've always known I was adopted, when I turned eighteen my A. parents gave me my birth certificate , and adoption record, <I didn't know they had this information>

Anyway as soon as I turned 18 I had what I needed. names, I used [against my better judgement] the electoral role online after paying around 40 pounds , anyway 3 months later they still didn't get their finger out, eventually I found my uncle, so I rung up and found that it was infact my uncle, to cut a long story short,me and my mum now talk on msn and by text most nights, and are doing great, we plan to meet in the new year, and I sent an email adress to my B.dad, but so far no reply, what you have to balance is ur hating of the uncertainty, and ur fear of rejection, for me, the NOT knowing was worse than the rejection, and I'm in the process of trying to assertain what he wants.

If your thinking about contacting your B.parents, keep thinking about it and don't act until your SO sure, yes it can't always go as planned, but sometimes you can get a great relationship like I have with my B.mum now.

My main problem now is going to be able to tell my A.parents, tricky stuff

Anyway thanks for reading, if you found this encouraging, or even if you didn't it would be nice to hear from you, feel free to email me if you want.

.Steve.

[Montraviatommyg]

Steve,

It is encouraging to read a story like yours. I have been in reunion with my son for 16 months now but unfortunately his birth father doesn't want to know him. From my point of view it is great knowing my son is alive and well.

Pip

[Killmark]

I hope all continues well for you.

As for the Bdad situation I can sympathise.

In reunion myself for over a year now.

Anthony

[Weebsey]

ok guys, just a quick update, for those who are interested, ** didn't txt back and hadn't/hasn't been online for a running total of.... atleast 9 weeks, then I texted her one day not expecting a reply, and she did, saying she had been really stressed and gone into "shutdown" and now mysteriously saying she doesn't like going online anymore <she had no probs with it before> and now prefers txts, I should explain that the closest we've got is internet, and her txts are short to say the least, so obviously I've lost a pretty large chunk of communication with her.

I guess that kinda sucks but hey hey, the other end of the spectrum is my half sis, who I love to bits and she loves to bits, but she never answers texts, then she did out of the blue <lol>

Since I last wrote I have met my half sis, my B uncle , and also gone out with him,

<life's a rollercoaster... >

So yeah.. just a quick update on everything there.