[Fonenurse]

Were you born in Devon in 1981? Searching for my daughter given up for adoption shortly afterwards. I did not want to give you up and just want to know you are ok. I gave you the name Kirsten. Please contact me via email for further information.

[Fonenurse]

Just realised I have hidden my email address. You can try emailing me at birth_mum@yahoo.co.uk if you know anyone who might be my natural daughter. Thanks.

[Fonenurse]

Just wanted to report back - we have found each other. Now making first tentative steps through letter writing! Thanks to everyone who read this post originally, and to those people supporting me currently in this very emotional phase of the journey.

[Jackiejdajda]

It is a very intense time.. I love to remember those feelings.

That shock when that first letter showed up..Whew.

Congratulations!

Jackie

[Fonenurse]

Thanks Jackie.
I have just spoken to her on the phone for over an hour! As you say - lovely feelings - intense but lovely.

[Jackiejdajda]

My bson calls me in the middle of the nite..
He lives on the west coast of America and I live in the eastern time zone..(Toronto Canada) He calls when he is finished his work..

Its an amazing thing..

I have a hard time calling him tho.. There are emotions I avoid in reunion.. I know I am wrong to avoid them but I can not handle sitting in the middle of them..

Sort of like "Here there be Dragons".

I am lucky because my bson and I have contact on terms of how we both want it.. Or..... we respect each others 'foibles' for lack of a better word..

You sound like you are sort of prepared and are comfortable with the contact and the way it was done.. (I read your other post)
That is so good..

I wonder how the ones who are still in the secrecy handle it.. It must be beyond intense..


Jackie

[Fonenurse]

I guess we are prepared, as much as you can ever be for somethng as big as this. It seems that we both have always wanted reunion, and I think that helps!

We are both united about how we feel about the social workers too - a common enemy so to speak.

We are also very similar in the way we think about things - and I think most of all, the way she is is due to fantastic adoptive parents who have given her a real identity of self.

I have read a lot of other peoples experiences both from this board and from others in the UK and I think this has helped.

I think the secrets of the past must never be allowed a place in our relationship - I truly feel for those who still live with secrets and lies...