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Originally Posted By Vickie

Hi. This is my first time on this site. We are the proud parents of a beautiful 4 year old, AA, we are white. We went through an open adoption agency, where the birth mom picked us to adopt her baby. I was there for her birth. We have 2 older biological children (18 and 14). Would love to chat with someone with similar circumstances, for support, etc.
We have a very loving and happy home with a supportive extended family and wonderful friends, but still would love to chat with someone who knows what its like! Thanks, and I appreciate you reading this.

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Originally Posted By Robin

Vicki,

Hi. My name is Robin and My husband and I have two adopted AA children (we are white). Our daughter is almost 3 and our son is 15 mo. They are biologically related. (They have the same birth Mother). Their Bmom chose us to adopt them. We brought Sydney home when she was 18 days old and A.j. when he was 14 days old. I'd love to hear back from you. Take care, Robin

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Originally Posted By Vickie

Hi Robin, I am so glad you responded, I was beginning to think there were no other couples out there that have adopted transracially. We live in California, where are you from? We adopted our daughter from Louisiana, I was there for her birth, brought her home to California at 12 days old. We have two older, biological children, 18 and 14. Would love to chat more with you. My email is Mom4ata5@cs.com
Please email me so we can "chat" more privately!
Thanks again, hope to hear from you soon, Vickie

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Originally Posted By kate

Hi! We are the proud parents of four great kids- three biological- our daughter turns 18 today (!) and we have two sons, 15 and 7, and an AA (adopted) boy who turned three yesterday. It sounds like our situations are very similar. We, too, were picked by the birth mother. We have had smooth sailing so far, but we have just started proceedings for an older child adoption, which I am very wary of. We would like to adopt an AA girl between the two younger boys ages (3-7). Any thoughts? Packard@eagnet.com

[Michelle 053002]

hi,

My husband and I are the proud parents of a 7 month old AA daughter. We brought her home from the hospital at 3 days. We also were chosen by the birthmom, but have never met her,yet. We are hopefull that in time she will be ready to met us, she is going through some difficult times. I am very excited to find this site and connect with other parents in our same situation. Michelle and Tim

[mommaof3boys]

We are Rob and Tammy and have two adopted boys a(all caucasian) and we currently waiting for Interstate compact to go through to bring our aa son home. He is two and half and needs a kidney transplant. The difference in our story from yours is that we are and have adopted through children services. My youngest was abandoned at birth then put in a group home for medically fragile children where he is til we get him. My oldest has autism and was taken away at two because of neglect and my middle child has the same bmom as the first and was taken at 5 days old for same reasons(taking him bar hopping). They were in foster care where they remained til we got them at the ages of 6 and a week from being two. They are now 10 1/2 and 6. My question is; Being that we are caucasian and he is African American, Is there anything we should expect or should do when raising child of another heritage? I know people will stare and make rude comments but what do you do in these situations?

[Jensboys]

I am the cauc mom of two aa boys adopted at ages 3 and 4 (now ages 6.5 and 8) and bio mom of two more boys, now ages 5 and almost 2. Sooo. What do you do? Well, sometimes you respond with an appropriate answer, sometimes you ignore the stares (and eventually you dont even notice them at all) and you educate your children on what a family really means ... we dont allow ANY racism in our home (even inadvertant from older relatives) - the art, music and literature in our home is very diverse and we make lots of efforts to connect with other multiracial families. That meant for us changing churches, travelling several hours for family vacations to meet up with other adoptive families and generally making an effort. To be honest though, we have never ever dealt with overt racism. People have been inappropriately curious, asked personal questions or sometimes make too big of a deal about my sons "they are SOOOO CUTE" (which I consider reverse racism... only noticing them because of the color of their skin) but all that has lessened as the children age. I felt a need to address questions or "explain" more when the kids were first home, but now they are simply my kids, my family and if someone has a problem with that ... well I am too busy to deal with it as I am RAISING four boys Good luck and I hope you son is home soon!

[mommaof3boys]

Thanks for your thoughtful and greatful words of wisdom. I too, have older relatives "concerned" about us adopting a child of another race. They seem to be stuck in the "old days" . Plus I know they are concerned because our oldest has autism and the one who we are about to adopt needs a kidney transplant. Well, we have had medically fragile foster children at the same time as having the autistic child and we did a great job. Honestly I have felt that a child with medical needs is far less easier than the autism. But I feel that God has his reasons and purposes for everything and he has lead us to these special children because they were meant for us and if people have a problem with that then they should ask the lord to help them because we are all Gods children and were created in "his image".