[doxie03]

How many times did you have your profile/album shown to expectant mothers before you were "matched"?

How many months/years did it take for you to get "matched" and finally adopt?

We have been "active" for 3 months, and have only had our album shown twice, but were not picked either time.


Thanks in advance.

[jaenelle]

We were shown once and not chosen, offered another situation a couple weeks later but turned it down, and a week later got THE CALL.

Our entire wait was from July 27 - October 3.

[maxkinzie]

Hi,
I don't know that we were actually ever shown, but 2 months to the day of mailing them out we got a call that a baby girl had been born that morning...if we were interested get to GA now! Our agency picked us. Birthmom did look at our profile at least. (would bum me out to go to aaaallll that work and never have it looked at! lol )

By the way, perfect adoption processes DO occur!!!! They're not the ones you usually hear about, but are actually common :-)

[Kat-L]

Originally Posted by maxkinzie

Hi,
I don't know that we were actually ever shown, but 2 months to the day of mailing them out we got a call that a baby girl had been born that morning...if we were interested get to GA now! Our agency picked us. Birthmom did look at our profile at least. (would bum me out to go to aaaallll that work and never have it looked at! lol )

By the way, perfect adoption processes DO occur!!!! They're not the ones you usually hear about, but are actually common :-)

Maxkinzie: Your baby is so precious! I love that picture!

My youngest child's birthmother didn't look at my profile until after the placement. She let the agency pick the parents but then wanted to see who they had chosen. Fortunately, she was happy with their choice and said I was someone she would have picked.

[DebCsMom]

We were shown before our homestudy was approved by our agency along with another couple. BMom couldn't decide so agency picked. They picked the other couple because they had been waiting 2 WEEKS longer than us!

About a couple weeks later we got a call from a friend who runs a referral service. She showed the BMom our profile & another family's. A couple days later she met the other family & then us the next day.Bmom chose us THAT day! Agency had to hurry homestudy. Our daughter was born 5 weeks later.

Second time Bmom looked at a few profiles before picking ours. Matched after a few weeks of update. She had the profiles for a few days. Baby was born a couple weeks later but match failed.

Next time , a few months later, we were again shown along with another couple. She looked at them with her parents for a few days. BMom chose us & DD was born a couple days later.

The last time BMom had looked at SEVERAL profiles. She took 3 weeks to decide. She had her friends read them over to make sure she was choosing right. She choose us & our son was born 3 weeks after that.

GOOD LUCK!!

Deb

[doxie03]

Thank you so much for all the replies.

I guess we are just getting anxious. We started the adoption process in Feb 2006, but did not get our "approval" until August, so we have only been waiting 3 months.
I guess I just kept reading about so many people suprisingly only waiting a very, very short time before getting matched with a baby, that I prayed we would have the same happen to us.

Our agency gave us a wait time of possibly 6-9 months. So...we are still very early in our wait.

But, when our social worker did our homestudy, after hearing that we are completely open regarding the gender and race of the baby, she told us to be prepared and if she were us, would already start getting things like the nursery, baby stuff together. (She emphasized on buying a carseat, as she thought we would match VERY quickly)

We took her advice, and now have a fully decorated nursery, but have yet to buy the carseat. I had so just hoped not to have to go through another holiday season (thanksgiving/xmas) without being a mom and dad.

Thanks for reminding me to not give up hope, and suprise calls do happen.

[DebCsMom]

If you are open to race & the sex, it should be very fast. It depends on how big your agency is, how many adoptions they do a year.

I'm sending you a PM, too.

Deb

[jennmomtothree]

Hey, you never know. Maybe it'll be the car seat that will do the trick.

Here's why I say this: We had only applied to our first agency in May 2003, but by August, we too were getting anxious (ok, so we were impatient!). SO, August 12, we sent off our application and profile to one other agency we knew about, figuring that throwing our hats into two rings would make a match more likely. Then, we went to the baby store to buy a crib, figuring we'd need it someday, anyway.

Too eager to leave it in the box, we assembled it.

THE NEXT MORNING, we got a call from our first agency - a baby had been born WHILE WE WERE BUYING HIS CRIB. Did we want to adopt him?

Heck, yeah!

So, you see, you may just be missing that last necessity. No harm in getting it now. It'll get used.

[2manyks]

our profile was shown 3x's, by 3 different agencies, before our homestudy was even finished. we were picked by 2 of those bmoms. we had not signed up with any agency, but they called us and asked us to send them a profile (long story). we had to pick between 2 bmoms. VERY tough, i cried. we are matched and waiting for birth.

[MichelleL11]

Were shown four times total -- once through our "primary agency" (had to turn down being shown to three situations during that month because of alcohol/severe mental health issues). We were shown three times with our "back-up agency" and picked on the third by our daughter's birthgrandmom and birthmom.

MichelleL

[Yash]

doxie03,

I can't answer your question, I adopted through foster care. But I can relate to you not wanting to spend another holiday season without being a mother. Christmas 2005, I was washing the Christmas dinners, listening to Christmas music, and praying this would be my last holiday childless. Five days later as I was putting away my Christmas decorations and putting my baby showers gifts in the garage, I got the call. I had to spend Christmas without a baby because my baby was being born. I quickly ran outside and brought his crib, his stroller, and all his items back inside the house.. He came home 2 hours and 45 minutes after the initial call.

I'm working on adoption number 2, I pray this will our last Christmas as a twosome.

Keep your head up,

Yash

[Linny]

We waited almost 18months for our last baby (AA girl).....but we specified the gender. We also turned down a couple of CC situtations, because we wanted only AA babies.

I can tell you this. We've adopted four infants over the last 25yrs. But, as you might see from reading other posts here.....it seems as though these miracles come about when anyone leasts expects them.
I know for us....both girls came 'out of the blue'....and it would seem, statistically, that most babies DO just seem to drop into our laps.

The day we got the call about one daughter, I had gone to the chiropractor with a massive migraine. Getting a call that day was the LAST thing on my mind. But, lo and behold!!!!! The attorney was frantically trying to find us, and the agency's secretary ran into me at a Chinese Restaurant--where I was going to meet with my sister! What a SHOCK!
The other daughter, came through a phone call after we had had a failed situation. (One that I had found and persued...not one out of the blue.) That phone call was about her, and the circumstances that surrounded her situation were more than unusual!!!! Yet, she became ours!

I'd be ready with a car seat, and a few items (not gender specific); and then realize that YOUR time WILL come, when it's supposed to.
I"m sure that doesn't give you a lot of consolation right now....but I assure you, it's VERY true!!!!!

I highly doubt that your wait will be more than a few more months; and I suspect that your baby will come when you least expect it, KWIM?

Hang in there. Your day and baby will come to you, as it's planned. Then you'll be posting here, like so many others, talking about how 'out of the blue' your baby seemed to be!!! ((HUG))

Most Sincerely,

Linny

[blessedbybug]

Originally Posted by doxie03

How many times did you have your profile/album shown to expectant mothers before you were "matched"?

How many months/years did it take for you to get "matched" and finally adopt?

We have been "active" for 3 months, and have only had our album shown twice, but were not picked either time.


Thanks in advance.

For DD, we waited into the 14th month and were shown 15 times. Only picked once, and it was THE ONE!

With DS, we waited just a year and were shown 13 times.

For our agency, we were placed both times well below the average wait times. We were open to any ethnicity/mix (both our kiddos have some Native heritage) and willing to consider some special needs.

Hang in there... each time gets you closer to the child you will have in your family!!!!

[joskimo]

Once we signed with our facilitator, we were shown three times and matched at 7 weeks. We were open to any race/gender. Prior to that we'd spent 7 months pursuing the state route which yielded no phone call.

[Casey677]

We wasted 10 months with a crappy agency and had two failed attempts. Once we signed on with our facilitator, it was very quick - only 3 months! I don't know how many times we were shown, but they asked us to speak to 3 pbmoms. I didn't have a good feeling after talking to the first one - we had been through a scam and I don't know if my defenses were raised really high or if something was really off, but we passed. The second one, we hoped we would match with, but she was taking a long time to decide. The third pbmom was the one!! Our dd was born 1 week after we spoke on the phone. Ironically, the 2nd pbmom emailed us while we were awaiting ICPC for our dd that she had chosen us. We obviously had to pass at that point. Total wait with both agency & then our facilitator: 13 months.

We are currently matched again, but we weren't even ready to adopt yet. We got an out of the blue phone call from our atty about a situation and we are waiting for our new dd to be born in January!