[mami]

Ok our story short... We are hispanics, my husband has a nice tan and blue eyes, I'm beige with freckles and black hair and dark eyes. We have 3 bio daughters, the three of them very different and with the hispanic look. And our foster to adopt son is biracial (cc and hispanic) but he is white, blonde and has blue eyes. When we are all together nobody ask questions because my husband has blue eyes, but when I'm with my youngest daughter or all the girls and him, always the people ask questions, usually to my daughters like is he your brother? and after the yes, oh and from where he got the blue eyes? I don't want to be rude and I don't want to lie at the front of the girls. But also I don't like the idea to explain to everybody that he is not my bio son. Please help us with your ideas, experiences. Thanks and have a great day.

Noris

[crick]

We are not a transracial family, however, 3 of our kids have red hair and dh & I are blonde. We get the "where's the red hair come from" question all the time.

We just simply say "it's in the family", which is the truth, just not saying which family it's in. People accept that just fine.

Or you could simply say "he gets his blue eyes from his dad", which is quite possible that he did get them from his bdad.

[mami]

I really like it's in the family answer. I need to learn how to answer in a polite and natural way. At first, my daughters explain to everybody about that we will adopt him in the future and I told them that they don't need to explain about private things to strangers. Well we are all adapting to all the new changes and hopefully soon we will learn how to act and answer. Thanks again...

Noris

[allanacw]

I don't answer the question most times, I just give a statement. E.g. Where did she get that curly hair? It's beautiful, isn't it?

A tip I got from someone here! The questions never really stop though, do they?

Allana

[GCS]

Although our adopted children happen to look a lot like us, they both have very blue eyes and my are dark brown. I get "where did they get those beautiful blue eyes" all the time. My answer depends on who it is and what mood I am in.

1- Both their Grandma's have blue eyes (they do, maybe the ones in Russia too, who knows)
2- From God
3- It's a mystery. Said with raised eyebrows and a shrug.
4- Yes, they both have pretty blue eyes, not like their Mama's. Usually said with a wink at my 4 year old who will promptly tell them that my eyes are brown.

Funny thing is if DH and I had bio children they would likely have had blue eyes. I am the only brown eyed kid of 6 in my family and he is the only green eyed of 4 in his. Go figure.

Christina