[wlbooklady]

Has anyone had experience starting an adoption support group? Specifically, I'd like to find/start a group in my area for families who have adopted transracially. Is it better to be really specific, ie., my son is AA-CC-Hispanic, or more general, which would include children adopted internationally? I found a neat website through a link from the e-newsletter (www.sbat.info) for a group out west, mostly CC parents who adopted AA children but with an AA adoptive mom as the leader. That sounded like such a neat idea, but it'd be nice to have something close enough to home that we could physically get together once in a while. I'll post this on the group for my state, too; maybe there are groups already out there that I haven't found yet.

[merts1234]

Hi
I also am very interested in doing the same thing. What State do you live?
Merts

[wlbooklady]

Hi!
I'm from VA. I did find one group listed in our local parenting magazine -- duh, never throught of looking there. Unfortunately, they seem to meet on a night I'm working. I thought I'd call and see if they get together for other events, as well. I've found groups in nearby more urban hours, but the'd be 45 minutes to an hour drive, and I really wanted to find something local. I also found an interesting moms group called "Mocha Moms" -- sounds like for moms of color -- BUT it said "mothers of all races welcome." As a CC mom parenting a transracial son, I thought this might be a great group, too. So I'm going to look into them. Frankly, I'd rather join an existing group than reinvent the wheel. Where are you from?

[merts1234]

Hi,
I am in Southern OH. We are CC and our daughter in Muli racial. But looks very AA. We really want to get into something that is diverse.
Still praying for something to come along.
Mert

[brendabie]

greetings,

I am brand new to this group, and have been reading through dozens of threads tonight, and appreciate the comments and experiences shared on this site.

Someone was asking about creating a multicultural group in your area. I am a member of a multicultural/multiracial families' group, and thought I'd send you the link. I am a new member to that group too, but you could probably join the group to be able to post to it and ask about how the group was started up:

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/embRACEinIdaho/

On another note, I am a CC single adoptive parent of a 4 1/2 month old AA daughter that I adopted when she was 2 days old. I am an adoptee myself.

Today I was again taken aback by something someone said, and I had no response to it. It is one thing to read in a book, or a do exercises on an online education course, and quite another to have someone say something out of the blue. Today's comment was: "oh what a beautiful baby. I hope you aren't offended, but I think black babies are so cute, I just love their hair." this was a CC woman, and I just had too many things to through my mind to really be able to say anything to her, I felt confused and taken off guard.

I feel like I let my daughter down by not being prepared to answer to this woman. Am I being overly sensitive, or was this something I really should have responded to?

brenda, mom to Jasmine

[merts1234]

Hello,
Yes I would love to check out the site you have posted.
I still have not found anything in my area. My daughter will be 2 next month.
Welcome to the forums,
merts

[blessedchild@co]

What part of VA are you from? We are from Southeastern Va and are a CC family waiting to adopt AA/CC child and would be interested in a support group.