[LeighM]

We have had a multi-racial (aa/na/ca) little girl in our home for almost two years. She has been a foster child during that time. Well in a couple month we will go to court the terminate parental rights on both of the parents and then we will adopt. I love this little girl as though she was my own. But at the same time I worry about whether I can provide her with the guidance she will need. We as a family plan on teacher her about her cultural background. We live in a large metro area and there are all sorts of museums and event that we can attend. Our community is very diverse.

But my question is will that be enough. Will she look back and wish an AA or NA family had adopted her? I guess what I am asking is ..have any of you ever felt this way.

[Annie Lee]

My DH and I now have twon adopted children both AA and we are not. I have felt the same way you are questioning, however I reassure m self by thinking. Yes, maybe a AA family would have been a better option in some regards. However, that was not an option for them and I feel like we are a pretty good match. I think they will of course have different experiences and will be exposed to different things. However, I feel this will prepare them to handle diversity in the future. It is a really complicated issue.

Best Wishes

Annie

[Shoshana]

Any adoptee, or bio-child for that matter, might look back and wish they'd had a different family. If they've been loved and well-cared for, even the occasional wish doesn't mean they would change things if they could, it doesn't mean they don't love you.

My 2 cents - in our less-than-perfect world, we can only do our best by our children, who ever they may be and however they may come to be in our families.