[INjoyBNmama]

My husband and I have one 2 yr old son of "our own" meaning from my womb!! We plan on more biologically as well as adopted. We are planning on adopting AA or biracial. can anyone tell me anything about mixing a family in this way? Meaning.... mixing biological with adopted, and ca with aa? Would love to hear anything!! Thanks in advance....

[goma]

Hi. I do not know about transracial adoption. But my cousin has one biological son and one adopted. Their experience is excelent!

There is not any difference between both of them for anyone.

Good Luck

[browntap]

Hi! We, too, have 2 bio kids (both Caucasian) and we are hoping to adopt an AA or biracial baby. I come from a large transracial family. My parents have 9 kids, 6 of which are adopted and 3 are AA. We feel biologically that we are finished with pregnancies, but we would definitely not be heartbroken if it were to happen (although measures are being taken to prevent it). So even though I feel "done" with giving birth, we still are not finished forming our family. We hope this will be the first of many adoptions. After this we hope to look into Haiti and possible siblings (depending on the ages of our kids at home).

My parents adopted only through the state, some were infant placements and some were older children. My parents did disrupt birth order and I felt that that prevented some of the older children from bonding well. So one definite rule that we follow is that we will only adopt younger than our youngest. And as our children age, we hope to bring in older children, but those children would be our youngest. I feel they need that extra time to feel loved in order to bond. Honestly, my AA siblings are more well grounded than some of my other siblings. They grown up in a very small white town, but my AA brother was just named homecoming king and is captain of the football team!

I can work and it can be really cool! So I just want to encourage you on your journey. I would also suggest that if you do adopt an AA or any race other than your own, that you will consider adding another of the same race later on.

Tammi

[INjoyBNmama]

Thank you tammi! I really appreciate your response. Really what I am looking for (and have recieved) is just other people "out loud" saying what I already know in my heart. We think (at this point) we'd like another pregnancy and two adopted.... we too agree not to disrupt birth order as I can't imagine handling a "new child" at a stage I have yet to pass through as a mother! Thanks to all of you for your encouragement!!

[mom2jazzygirl]

My experience is similiar to Tammi's. There are 8 children in my family, 5 of them are adopted and 4 of those 5 were transracially adopted. One was from Ethiopia but the other 3 were domestic infant adoptions. They are significantly younger than the biological set of siblings and still growing up. But, at 12, the biggest issue the oldest of these children is facing right now is that he's being chased by all the girls in town. Don't know if that's cause he is the preacher's kid or because he is very unique right down to his skin tone. But, they are well adjusted and happy children.

In our own family, we adopted out of birthorder. Our oldest joined us in December from Sierra Leone. Its too soon to tell how he will adjust. But, all indications show he is quite happy, healthy and bonding well to every member of this family, including the sister he bumped out of oldest. We won't disrupted the birthorder of the oldest two again. But, we will adopt more children from around the world and create a rainbow family. Heck, we may even give birth again. We just don't know yet.

IMO, people make a much better deal of transracial adoption than it needs to be. Yes. You have to honor their culture and heritage. But, I teach my children about diversity of the human race regardless of the tone of their individual skin. I would have done that whether we ever adopted trans-racially or not. Its just part of who we are.

[leatherette]

I have a three year old caucasian bio-son, and a 4 month old African American adopted daughter. It's only been 2 months, but it has been great so far.......go for it! Our daughter is so amazing, and our son is totally in love with her.

We have been stared at in the mall. Big whoop.

L.

[DebCsMom]

We are caucasian with 2 bio children. We adopted a biracial girl who will be 4 in May, an AA girl who is 19 months and an AA boy who is 6 months. Our experience has been GREAT!! We have total open adoptions & we're blessed with a very LARGE "extended family". Email me anytime with any questions blessed05x@hotmail.com

Deb

[LeighM]

My dh and I are both white. We have two bio sons 13 & 10. Two years ago we became foster parents with the hope to adopt a little girl. We where pretty open to race. Well not long after we became foster parents we took a placement of a three day old baby girl (ca,na,aa).

We are hoping that by the end of summer her adoption will be final. At that time she will be two.

I worried at first how the boys would handle a child of a different race. I guess more importantly how their friends and classmates would handle it. Well, I am here to tell you in regards to the kids and their friends it has never been an issue.

The hardest part for me was getting use to people asking questions. At frist when people would say "what is she" I felt like I had to go into this long story. Now I just say american. Sometimes we forget that our society is getting use to the adoption option. Sometime people have questions not to be nasty but to find out. Adoption Internationally has become so popular that their is a curiosity out there.

Their is a big age difference between my kids 13, 10 and then 18-months. I go back and forth in regards to adopting another child. Part of me thinks it would be great for our soon to be daughter because she would have someone close in age. And the other part worries about my age and can I give all the kids the attention they need.

Good luck on your journey. I don't regret ours for one moment.

[skradu]

I have an aray of cultures! My oldest, is BR, my middle is AA, and the baby is CA. I would not change it for the world!!