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Originally Posted By Kansas Paula

I am glad to see all the discussion about bi-racial adoptions/families. My husband and I are both caucasian, and our son is AA/Cau. We are about to adopt a new baby who is Cau/Latino. We feel blessed to have so much culture and color within our household. Insecure people will always find a reason to stare at you no matter what color you are. I just always say..."Consider the source." This world is a trillion shades of brown. I sure wish I had been born with some color!!

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Originally Posted By Djackson

We are from Central Kansas and have not had an really negative remarks made about our 6 y/o mixed race daughter. Actually it has been funny because Andi looks so much like my husband or myself unless you see us together with her. We are currently (anxiously) pursuing a second baby and hope to match soon. The only problem we had with a bi racial baby was no one at the agency had told us not to wash her hair daily! Well, I soon found out through coworkers -don't do that!

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Originally Posted By amy

we are adoptive parents to 4 children. 2 are cau and one is aa and one is cau/latino. I will say that most people don't realize she is part latino, except in the summer when she really tans so more of the looks are from the respect of our aa son who is all aa. It is different but they both are growing up knowing their heritage. Our aa is not quite 3 so he is still learning but he does know he is "brown" and our dd has been aware all her life that she is adopted and that she is part latino. We do get the looks but I really don't care about it any more because they are all my children and part of a large loving family.

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Originally Posted By cheryl

I love you're response "a trillion shades of brown" how true! I agree, I would have liked to have been born with a little color myself,...I can't even get a tan! HA

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Originally Posted By Andy

Well said -

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Originally Posted By suzanne

Dear Paula,
Our adopted children are AA/Cau and AA/Asian, and we have one Caucasian biological child. It IS a blessing. I have found that most people admire us which is silly because skin is skin and children are children. Our world is filled with all kinds of colors from flowers to the ocean from day to day. Why should people all be the same?

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Originally Posted By Brook

Kansas Paula,

You said, 'I sure wish I had been born with some color!!'

That reminds me of an incident with my 15 year old daughter I adopted from Korea...

I grew up in Japan, then lived in Korea for a number of years as an adult. I know that Asians greatly value light/pale skin. In fact, in the heat of the summer the Korean golf caddies wear long sleeves, gloves, long pants, and large straw hats with scarves tied under their chins...because they DO NOT want their skin to darken at all.

Well, in the summer this particular daughter's skin got darker that that of my other children, and she ultimately learned to value having a NATURAL tan when she began living in the American community. Many of her friends were envious of her lovely skin coloring.

One day I said to my daughter, " Sweetie, don't take this the wrong way but...most Mothers know what their children look like, bathing them as babies, etc. But since I adopted you when you were 15 I just don't know: Are you chocolate all over?'

She smiled and very proudly said, 'Yes Mom, I'm chocolate ALL over!'

Adopting a teenager from Korea was, without a doubt, one of the wisest things I ever did. It is an honor to be loved so dearly by such a charming, caring young lady.

Brook
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