[trunks888]

Hi,
I hope this post dont offend anyone
but I feel I need some info for once I adopt a child
I will know what's what.

This question is on Potty training.
How do you do it?
I have no clue how it works.

you see due to birth defects I was born with no bladder control and also had a colastome bag put in not long after birth
so I never was potty trained or have any idea how it works since I have no mucle control over those area's

If anyone could give me input on this please do
for I totaly dont understand how it works.

Thanks.

[Judilyn]

There are a lot of good books out there on this subject and I would try one of those. Stay away from any books that say you can potty train your child in a day. Those methods are usually too stressful on children.

If your child will be in day care becasue you will be a mom working outside the home, they will assist you in this area.

The most important thing is waiting until your child is ready and showing signs of readiness. Are they interested in the potty? Are they staying dry for longer periods of time? Are they waking up after naps or in the morning dry?

Every child is different when it comes to this. Age is often a big factor especially with boys. At the day care center where I am the director it is common for boys to be close to age 3 before they master this, girls tend to be earlier. Both of my daughters were younger, one was 16 months (very unusual) and one was 2. My son however was almost 3. They wll also reach a point when they do not like the feeling of a wet or dirty diaper.

You won't need to teach your child anything about knowing when their bladder is full. This is something that just comes naturally. They will begin to recognize that certain feeling in their baldder and then begin to associate it with the difference they feel when it's empty and begin to notice the wetness that comes afterwards. At this point they will usallly begin to tell you "potty" after they already went, but that's ok, it's the first step.

There are also a lot of cute vidoes out there that children enjoy watching that introduce them to the concept.

Most importantly, if your child is afraid, or just very stubborn, don't push it. I have found that the more you force the issue the more they will back off. Potty traing comes at an age when children are also learning what it is like to stress their independence from your decisions. It is hard as a parent to let your child take the lead because as parents we usually can not wait to have children out of diapers.

Just remember to use lots of positive verbal praise when your child is succesful but not to scold/ punish them them for accidents.

Hope this helps.

Judilyn

[trunks888]

Thank you very much
you have been most helpful
may god bless you
Take care bye!

Originally posted by Judilyn
There are a lot of good books out there on this subject and I would try one of those. Stay away from any books that say you can potty train your child in a day. Those methods are usually too stressful on children.

If your child will be in day care becasue you will be a mom working outside the home, they will assist you in this area.

The most important thing is waiting until your child is ready and showing signs of readiness. Are they interested in the potty? Are they staying dry for longer periods of time? Are they waking up after naps or in the morning dry?

Every child is different when it comes to this. Age is often a big factor especially with boys. At the day care center where I am the director it is common for boys to be close to age 3 before they master this, girls tend to be earlier. Both of my daughters were younger, one was 16 months (very unusual) and one was 2. My son however was almost 3. They wll also reach a point when they do not like the feeling of a wet or dirty diaper.

You won't need to teach your child anything about knowing when their bladder is full. This is something that just comes naturally. They will begin to recognize that certain feeling in their baldder and then begin to associate it with the difference they feel when it's empty and begin to notice the wetness that comes afterwards. At this point they will usallly begin to tell you "potty" after they already went, but that's ok, it's the first step.

There are also a lot of cute vidoes out there that children enjoy watching that introduce them to the concept.

Most importantly, if your child is afraid, or just very stubborn, don't push it. I have found that the more you force the issue the more they will back off. Potty traing comes at an age when children are also learning what it is like to stress their independence from your decisions. It is hard as a parent to let your child take the lead because as parents we usually can not wait to have children out of diapers.

Just remember to use lots of positive verbal praise when your child is succesful but not to scold/ punish them them for accidents.

Hope this helps.

Judilyn