[my2sons]

I was born in 1964 in an era where birth control wasnt what it is today. And in an era where abortions were done by back alley butchers. Some women did not have much of a choice and did what they thought was best. As far as safe havens go I would much rather see a child left there than killed after birth or left somewhere else. I am thankful I was born and have no regrets. Please think of the circumstances before you put down women who relinquish thier babies. They dont actually give them up they choose life a life that they cant give them and know they deserve. Thank you for giving me life mom and choosing the best parents for me.

[dpen6]

Originally Posted by my2sons

I was born in 1964 in an era where birth control wasnt what it is today. And in an era where abortions were done by back alley butchers. Some women did not have much of a choice and did what they thought was best. As far as safe havens go I would much rather see a child left there than killed after birth or left somewhere else. I am thankful I was born and have no regrets. Please think of the circumstances before you put down women who relinquish thier babies. They dont actually give them up they choose life a life that they cant give them and know they deserve. Thank you for giving me life mom and choosing the best parents for me.

I am not sure anyone is putting their bmom down. I think the point of this thread is to get out the fact that some adoptees have unique feelings about their adoptions and that should be respected. Some are grateful, some are not.

my feeling is that I am not grateful I had to be placed for adoption in the first place...nobody, I don't beleive wants to be in the position that they neededto go to another family(albeit a family that loves them) and lose idenity, biological information, ect. On the flip side I totally understand the need for me to be placed and I AM grateful that I was placed andgrew up with the family that I did. But grateful I NEEDED to be adopted...no. Their are some adoptees that were placed in bad situaions and would have been better off if NOT adopted.

What nobody needs is telling the person most impacted by their own adoption that their feelings about it are wrong and they should not judge. Some have every reason to judge...it was them that was impactedthe most.

[allformychildren123]

I never thought of adoption as immoral. I believe adopting a child and treating them as a lesser valued family member because of genetics immoral. But some adoptions are a good thing. I don't exactly understand if you are angry, or lonely??? Wow....immoral, huh? Sorry.