[plants]

i feel alot of rejection being adopted and even more so when i was a child

[janf]

I am sorry that you feel rejected. Being the birth mom and giving up 2. One at 3 years old and the other at 11 months old. It was that I wanted my children to have a better life than what I could provide at the time. I only wanted what was best for them.

I know they are angry with me for giving them up and I am sorry and I wish I could take away the hurt and anger they have. I truly love them

jan

[plants]

i dont know how i am suppose to feel gratful and happy when i was put in a abusive home with nobody to care about me i think sometimes i think people ask a little to much from me eventhough i guess feel happy about being adopted

[plants]

im not really happy about being adopted i think its kinda sickenig to have to feel like nobody ever wanted me

[plants]

i just feel like nobody ever wanted me because i was adopted

[MrsHoot]

So sorry you are feeling that way - IMHO bmom surely had no idea that you would be in an abusive home. No one wants their children to be put in a worse situation then they are already in. If she had known she likely wouldn't have gone through with it.

Can I ask a few questions? Such as what year did adoption take place? International or Domestic? Infant/Toddler/Teenager at the time? Are you now in search of BP's?

Any of these things could be a factor, if you don't feel comfortable answering I understand and all I can offer is my support and understanding...as a birthmother it breaks my heart to hear you going through such a rough time. I would never want what you went through for any of my children (or anyone elses either for that matter) Again, I'm so sorry your are feeling this way, please know that you are not alone and that there are many of us here to support you!

C.

[plants]

but i think the problem is that nobody thinks its no big deal if you feel like nobody ever wanted you because your adopted i know its important to be born but it should be important to feel wanted when your adopted to

[MrsHoot]

Yes, absolutely! Everyone needs to feel loved and wanted! I know that was my expectation of the siutation - I expected her to be in a loving home that would nurture and care for her, help her feel loved and secure...I am so sorry that your parents didn't provide this for you!

[janf]

i would love to give you a big hug.. no child ever needs to be in this kind of home. I will speak for myself as a bmom, this is not what I ever wanted for my child.