[inesi]

Hello mother,

I know the last time we met was almost thirty six years ago on a cold January 4th day in Philadelphia, PA and while you were probably in a lot of pain and very confused I was working my way out of your womb but I know you loved me and I loved you. I don't know if you will ever get to read this but at least I hope you think about me and miss me as much as I miss you. If ever you have wondered if you made the right choice back then, let me tell you that I have enjoyed a very happy life full of love and special people. Both my parents have been very special (father passed away 13 years ago) and they gave me a very special brother (also adopted). I have enjoyed the pleasure of loving and being loved and that is what I would like to share with you. I just wish I could hug you and asure you you made the right decision. I know you must have loved me a lot to have the strength and courage to carry me in your womb for nine months knowing we might never meet again. I want to make you part of my family and share so many stories with you. I love you and I hope one day we find each other. God bless you and your family.

[hopeful0712]

What a beautiful heartfelt letter. I hope that you find your bmom one day and get to tell her in person! I wish you luck, love, happiness and peace.
God bless,
Robin

[KathyB58]

What a wonderful letter. It made me feel so "normal" since I feel the same way. I would like to find b-mom just to say thanks. My a-parents werewonderful - still are and I think I am where I am because of my life and how I was raised. I also have a son who is now 15. Now ex-husband left when he was 2 mths old - many, well-intentioned friends suggested I put him up for adoption. I couldn't do it. I was 31 at the time with a decent job and a whole bunch of love in my heart. Also, this poor kid was going to grow up not knowing his dad, like many of us adoptees and I wasn't going to add mom to the list. I'm sure I have issues that stem from my adoption but I was only 5 weeks old and now at 46, I KNOW I have issues (LOL) but I don't feel as if they are adoption related. A-Parents told me from a very early age who I was and where I came from (at least all they knew) and they are totally OK with my searching. My big thing, like many is medical history. I know what I've gone thru but my son is going thru some stuff that neither me or his dad had and I'd like to know what to expect down the road, if anything.
Many people seem to feel they're being adopted makes them different from everyone else. Well, OK....to coin an OLD phrase we are....we're selcted not expected. We came from parents who couldn't keep us for whatever reason and we were selected by people who couldn't become parents. I think my b-mom is awesome. She handled the situation she was faced and because of it, she didn't have to worry and she made 2 people extrememly happy. Make that 3 - I forgot to include me. And I want to thank her for that.
On a humerous note, I have to add. My amom is a nut about a clean house. To this day (she's almost 80) you could go to her house and eat your dinner off her bathroom floor. I on the other hand am not as meticulous with my housework. My house is clean but extremely cluttered. When she comes over and see's my place....on a really really cluttered day...she'll become angry and state how she didn't raise me this way. I look at her and smile and say, no you didn't but way back when in my unknown gene pool there is a clutter bug I'm sure. She usually doesn't know what to say after that. LOL.
They may not have raised me to be so "unkempt" but they did raise me to be me. They told me all they knew on who I was and where I came from and were proud (not scared) to let others know they had an adopted daughter. All that wisdom and insight has been imbedded in me. To this day I have a tendancy to help the underdog - usually in the form of abandoned animals LOL.
No one should go unwanted or feel they are unwanted. We ARE wanted - just ask our a-parents. OK, some may not have had the "Ward & June Cleaver parents" but some of our friends who aren't adopted never had that either. I think we got a start in this life one step ahead of our non-adopted friends. We were chosen. We weren't an "oops" or a result of reckless drinking and sex....maybe we were. But our birth mothers chose to carry us and then make the most heart-wrenching decision on our behalf.....she knew she couldn't provide for us and made the choice to let someone who could - do so. And I say thank you b-mom. I am not angry with you and I don't hate you. I am filled with thanks and love and want to let you know that.