[lovingmother26]

I desperately need some advice/help/reassurance/opinions from other people who may have gone through a similar situation. Here's my story in a jist:

I was never married to him, broke up with him, then realized later I was pregnant (definitely his), he thought it meant I would go back to him so he encouraged my having the baby at first until he realized that I didn't want to go back to him. THEN suddenly he wanted me to have an abortion and said we were making a huge mistake blah blah blah. I start a new relationship with a wonderful man (whom I'm still involved with) I end up having the baby, invite bio father into our lives and constantly encourage him to be involved - he doesn't become involved. Instead he sees her a few times, then decides he wants to terminate his rights. Fine. I file for child support, and he hasn't seen her since she was 7 weeks old (she is now 9 months old). Loving boyfriend has been there the whoooooole time, helping me take care of her, loving her like she was his own... so she definitely DOES have a daddy. We are talking about getting married and he would adopt her, etc. Bio father hired himself an attorney to try to fight the Child support order...or get it "changed" so that he doesn't have to pay it. Can he do that at all???? I mean, is that even possible in the state of Texas???? I don't even know of anything that would allow him to get away with that even if I DID consent to that??? I'm not going to consent to anything unless it is about terminating his parental rights. I have tried several times to ask him to ask his attorney about PARENTAL TERMINATION, but instead he's just focusing on not wanting to pay child support. He is also extremely passive aggressive, I ask him to call me to talk about the information he's learned from his attorney, etc, and he never does. He weasels his way out by emailing me or texting me, etc. Basically he is a worthless piece of crap all the way around and he's just wanting to weasel his way out of paying for any child support just because he doesnt want to be involved in her life.

Here are my questions:

1) can anyone relate to this?
2) does he have the right to some how "request" that the child support order be stopped with or without my consent?
3) if my boyfriend and i are married, do we really need a lawyer to try to get the step parent adoption process started?
4) if bio dead beat tries to be difficult and refuses to give up parental rights so that my boyfriend can adopt, is there anything we can do? he has obviously not been involved in her life for months and doesnt show any interest..... so I'm wondering if we can just terminate his rights with or without his consent?

Any opinion/advice would be greatly appreciated. I've never had to deal with this before. Bio father told me before he wanted to be involved, then basically abandoned her just because he and I are no longer together (gee I wonder why).

Please email me: preggers25@yahoo.com