[cctxlorrie]

My son is almost 10, my husband is the only true father he has ever known. His B/F father does pay child support and sees him maybe once a year. Since my ex lives out of state and is in the military, my ex-mother-in-law has visitation rights to see my son onces a month and during the summer. My son is getting older and has voiced many times that he wants my husband, his step-dad to adopot him. He has told me that his b/f isn't even part of his life, so why should he be able to say what he does.
Is there any way this adoption can be done? Wouldn't the B/F have to sign his rights away first? (I don't see that happening). At what age can my son tell a judge what he wants?

[JodyTG]

In Texas, your son has to be 12 to be able to tell a judge what he wants. Does you son realize that by his birth father giving up his rights then his grandmother gives up hers too?

In my case, my daughter hasn't heard from her birth father in about 7 years and from his parents in about 2 years. She just turned 13 and she and my husband want the adoption. I don't see the ex fighting it.

You're case is different in that your ex is in the military. If he doesn't agree, I really don't see a judge relinquishing his rights. If your son can wait just 2 more years, then he can speak up for himself and it would make things a whole lot easier.

[Eventually]

Actually, you might want to doublecheck the laws in TX regarding termination of parental rights and grandparents. Someone I know in TX had her ex's rights terminated, but that did NOT effect the "rights" of the grandparents. This was a few years ago, so the law might have changed.

[JodyTG]

The grandparents have to sue for the rights, and things usually get very ugly. I, personally, do not want the other grandparents anywhere near my daughter; especially not after the adoption is finished. They are idiots that would like nothing more than putting my daughter in a situation where she would have to see her ex-father.

I just think everything is a whole lot cleaner and easier if there is a complete and total break.