[Archive]

I am thinking about adopting a 2 year old boy. I have two grown kids. Do you think this is a good thing to do.have anyone experience any bad thing that they regret about adoption. Please help me to make up my mine. thanks uncertain

[Archive]

Originally Posted By Doug

Well I regret not getting mine sooner 1 had 13 foster homes in 5 and a half years. The other was allowed to do what ever she wanted to do for most of her life. So I do regret missing out on watching them grow up. At 2 years old you would enjoy it at least I would good luck Doug

[Archive]

Originally Posted By COLLEEN

HI! MY KIDS ARE GROWN AND I AM ADOPTING A 10 YEAR OLD NEXT FRIDAY. HE IS HIGH, HIGH SPECIAL NEEDS! AND A HEART TO MATCH. JUST BE FULLY AWARE OF THE CHILD, YOUR RIGHTS, AND TALK TO OTHER FOSTER/ADOPT PARENTS FIRST. THERE ARE A LOT OF DRUG KIDS OUT THERE THAT ARE ADORABLE WHEN YOUNG BUT A HUGE EMOTIONAL CHALLENGE LATER. KNOW WHAT YOU WANT AND GO FOR IT! I HAVE NEVER REGRETTED MY "KIDS". I PREFER TO FOSTER BEFORE ADOPT. THEN I CAN REALLY GET A FEEL FOR THEIR PERSONALITY AND NEEDS FIRST.

[Archive]

Originally Posted By Amy

How many of the children you have fostered were you given the option to adopt? We were told it might be the 7th or 8th child before we would get one that we could adopt. I know loving them and then sending them back to birthfamilies would be extremely difficult on us but I worry mostly about my four year old getting too attached.

[jenna202]

Amy, there's a way to cut down on that. You can choose to only foster legally at-risk kids. These are children who are entering care, and are not expected to ever go back to their birth families. There is a chance they could, and you have to be prepared for that, but the odds are low. You won't have 8 or 9 before you can adopt. It will be more like 1 or 2, worst-case. That's what I'm doing. My 2 year-old daughter is technically my foster child, but it's only a matter of time and red tape before she is free for adoption, and then I will automatically adopt her. Also, in Texas, you can just wait for a child who is legally free for adoption. Your odds of getting a younger child are not as good, but it does happen. And then you know 100% that they will not be going anywhere unless something really major happens and the adoption falls through. But they definitely won't go back to their birth family.