[ms_mckenna]

OK I got a call this afternoon for a 10 year old girl and her baby brother (under 2). She told me the issues etc. and we said no after thinking about it for a few hours. We are very new to this. I said yes to my first placement he was scheduled to come Friday and the court left him with a family member instead. Now I said no to this one. Just because I thought it was a bit much for our first placement. Do they call you less if you say no?

[mmwoodard]

I am curious too...we just turned down a little girl for adoption too. She had a disability that, at this time, we did not think we could handle.

[fostermomintx]

It doesn't matter if you say no, they will always call you again. I have turned down several over the last 3 years and have always received calls afterwards. I've had multiple calls in one day. My son, who I adopted last year, was the second call I received in one day. The first was for a newborn who was too young to go to daycare so I turned her placement down. So you never know what will come next.

You should only accept the placements you believe you can handle and that will fit in with your family.

They are too desperate to mark you off the list just because you say "no" once in awhile.

I had a call last year for a little boy who had stitches in his scalp from surgery and I refused because my daycare would freak out and frankly, so would I. It's hard enough to see the kids who are neglected let alone abused.

Do what you feel is best for your family or situation...

[ms_mckenna]

Thanks I assumed it was an issue of desperation and they would call me again. I wanted to say yes to this placement but I also want to keep my family safe and that is more important. Our worker assured me they would call me again but I am just a card carring worrier .

[sweetsal]

You can say no over and over. You are on a call list. They go down the list and if you are open to that criteria of that child, they will call. Sometimes they will call even if the child doesn't fit. They are more desperate than you think.

I always felt guilty when I said no, but you have to do what is right for your family.