[jllambert]

We were contacted in November by CPS in the region we adopt through the first time about a sibling group. They said they wanted us to consider adopting these two boys. TPR had already occurred. We drove up and meet the boys case work and even got to see pictures of the them. She told us at that meeting they were only looking at one other family and they would have the selection soon. We are in a new Region now and so our home study needed to be updated. Our new Region rushed and got everything to them within a few weeks. Next they told us they were waiting on the home study for the other family. Honestly it has been on reason after another to delay the selection staffing for 2 and 1/2 months now. Right before Christmas CW told me the boys would be on Wednesdays Child, but not to worry it is still just between us and one other family and that the staffing would be right after the new year. I e-mailed yesterday to see if she know exactly when the selection would be. She replied that she had no idea because another agency still had not gotten back to her with some home studies and that even if she wanted them to they could not just pick us with out looking at other families. WHAT???? All along it has been about us and one other family, now you can't find any families?? She told me they found out they could not place with the "Other family" and that a few people have called after seeing Wednesdays Child, but none of them have home study.
I just don't know how much more I can take! What do they do if none of the agency come up with a family. The crazy thing is we are a licensed foster home and if they had been our foster kids we would not have had to wait for a selection staffing. Also they called us! If they knew we were a good match back when they called us then why can't they just place them with us?? Plus if we are the only family that wants them what is the big deal?
What gets me is we are not taking any foster placements because we want to keep the space open for the boys. We could be sharing our love with other kids right now, but they are holding everything up.
DO we set a deadline for our self...either we have an answer by X or we take our home study out and tell our region we will are open for foster placements? Or do we sit and wait? They already told us the kids have been moved several times and they have very difficult transition. I feel like the long they keep these kids in their foster home the harder it is going to be on them and on the family they pick to adopt them. Also it is hard not to get upset when I think that every day that goes by is a day I am missing of their life! I think it is sad that these boys may miss out on having a family that wanted them so much it hurts, because someone is either not doing their job or due to some stupid rules that say they have to look at 3 different families even when the perfect one is right in front of them! This all just makes me wonder what they are not telling us!!

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Wife to best friend and high school sweet heart
J/14 yrs
bio Mom to Son/D~12yrs
Adoptive Mom to Daughter/C~6yrs (adopted 11/2003)
Waiting and hoping for more

[ingi]

I would ask them why they contacted you in the first place and if there any other rules you should be aware off.
For example what would happen if they not get all the home studies they.
Also ask her EXACTly how many does she need and where you can find a copy of all these supposed rules.
If it is a rule or a law it is somewhere in writting..
I would give yourself and THEM a deadline.
CPS'S job is to advocate for these kids.
Good luck

[jllambert]

We still could not get CW to give us any answers and the longer we waited the more doubt and concerns we had. So we removed our home study a few days ago. It broke our hearts! Our kids were really excited about getting two little brothers and we already talked like we were a family of six. I can't look in my closet with out getting tears in my eyes because I have stored all the things I have been buying them for months in there. I really feel like it was the best decision to pull out, but I will never stop wondering where they are and if they are safe and happy. We feel very strongly that either there was some major stuff they were keeping from us, or they have a very bad adoptive case worker that was not doing her job!
I am sad and I feel guilty and selfish right now!I will never stop praying for these little guys!!
We have contacted our CPS office and told them we would take foster placements. I am excited about this and looking forward to our first call! Is anyone from the Odessa/Midland Region??? If so please let me know anything you think we need to know!