[ccoudrain]

I have a few questions, we had a baby 10 days old dumped on us we, he was a drug baby, I walked the floors sometimes for days at a time with him, we had him for 7 months, our county agency was going to help us adopt him, he was AA/C, but I didnt care. The birthmom showed up at my door late one night with papers for me to appear in court, to say why I had the child, but the police officer on duty didnt read the papers he took the baby and gave him to the mother, it took CPS 72 hours to find the child, he was placed in ICU upon finding him. I had just taken him to get his 6 month old shots, he had a mild cold, the mother kept him out in February hiding with him, he ended up with RSV and Phnuemonia. We asked to get the baby back, went through the homestudy and everything, we were told we were going to get him. Then the mother named a guy that might be the father, without a DNA test he said he was the father the judge named him the legal father and he recieved custody, the birthmom cant be around him (so thats a good thing).

I said all that to ask this, we had the homestudy, and were wandering if that homestudy would work for us to use to adopt a child now? Does anyone know? I guess I am being foolish in wanting to adopt now, I am 45 years old, my husband is 51 years old and dying. We have 3 grown sons, I just want a child, I have alot of love to give, I am even willing to take children with special needs as I have had dealings with that.

I see all these children getting dumped and feel like just putting ads in the area papers if you want to throw your baby away throw it my way. Am I being selfish, wanting a child knowing I am loosing my husband? Please advise me, thanks, Cheryl

[tarynbrook]

I am sorry to hear that your husband isn't doing well. That must be very difficult. The situation with the baby who you tried to adopt sounds like it was a difficult loss as well. When did that happen? Your homestudy may not be valid still. I think that if you have a major life changing event which will happen soon (i.e. the death of your spouse) the agency may want you to wait and take care of yourself first. If you have a pasion in your heart to be a mother again, I'm sure there is a child for you. Just take your time, and deal with your homelife first. You are going through so much right now, and an adopted child will need all of your attention for awhile. The timing will work out if it is meant to be. Hang in there, and contact your homestudy agency if you are really serious and ready to parent a child again. I wish you the best of luck.
~ Taryn

[ccoudrain]

The Home Study was done in I believe March of last year, so it is close to a year old now.

[BrandyHagz]

Unless you plan on foster/adopting thru the state, then you would have to purchase the homestudy that the state did from them...and even then, it may not be the same as the homestudy required for a domestic parental placement in Texas.

The person who could answer your question best, would be a caseworker.

Good luck!

[sls_93]

your age doesn't matter. When we went through pride classes there were alot of older people there.

They want anyone that can give these kids a place to lay there heads and lots of love.