[Karen1977]

Has anyone else had to deal with having a baby during the holidays and placing it for adoption? My baby is due right around Christmas and I'm so scared that every Chrstmas from now on will be awful.

[thanksgivingmom]

Hi Karen, I responded to your other post before I saw this one. My DD was born last Thanksgiving. It definitely has changed how I even feel about the holiday. Like I said on the other post, PM me if you want to talk more about this (or anything to do with your placement).

[taramayrn]

Welcome!! My son was born the day before Valentine's Day and was placed on Valentine's Day. His due date was Vday though. When I was pregnant with him I really didn't want him born on that day, I thought it would be too hard every year and would ruin the holiday. However, really, the day we placed him has been a much harder day than his birthday. So in the end Valentine's Day has been a hard day for us, we have however learned to cope and have started celebrating the holiday again, on the holiday.

[IzaksMom]

I had my son on December 30 almost 4 years ago. I have to admit, the first Christmas was the hardest. As each year has gone by, I try and remember to give myself time on his birthday to celebrate it and to feel sad if I want to. I think I am almost happy that it is in the middle of the holidays because I tend not to dwell too much on my sadness, but remember the happiness of the holidays and the happiness that he is experiencing in his life because of the holidays around his birthday. He shares a birthday with his adad and his brother's birthday is the day after theirs, so it's just a whole bunch of presents all within a week for all of them. I think the other reason I tend to not grieve too much is that his amom sends me Christmas presents and a present to open on the day that I placed him with them, which was New Years Day. So, I feel very included in all their festivities.

[RavenSong]

My son wasn't a Christmas baby ~ he was born in early March. But I made the decision to relinquish him for adoption during the Christmas season. I've had a hard time with Christmas since then (some years are worse than others').

The strange thing is that I didn't associate my seasonal sadness around the Christmas holidays with my decision to relinquish until I was finally reunited with DS.