[SuddenlySusan]

I've given it a lot of thought, and this is the conclusion I've reached: My bson made me a mother. I'm not going to worry about whether or not he acknowledges me for Mother's Day.

I'm going to acknowledge him and his role in making me a mother.

It's like how I used to celebrated my birthday by honoring my mother (she has passed away)... and like how my daughter acknowledges her birthday by honoring my "birthing day" (I posted on this elswhere).

My beautiful children are why I am called "mom" and without them I do not have that title. This is my first Mother's Day in reunion with my bson (he's 36 y/o). He doesn't need to worry about what to do for me. I'm taking care of it, because... well, I'm "the mom" and he made me mom for the first time...and, I love him for that.

Peace, Love & Laughter,
Susan

[MommaKatja]

good for you

[taramayrn]

Susan, I admire your outlook. Sometimes it is so hard to not get validation from outside sources, but I have learned that often we have to validate ourselves.

[Shadows]

Mother's Day can be tough. I was reunited with my birthson a year and a half ago and when he phoned and left a message for me on Mother's Day last year, it meant the world to me. Unfortunately after meeting 3x (we live in separate provinces) and corresponding by email, it appears he has decided since our last visit three months ago that he does not need to maintain contact - for whatever reason. So............this upcoming Mother's Day is going to be tough but you are right: trust and believe who you are and that you are a good person. Validate yourself. Hopefully I can do it.