[jthwalker]

I went through an adult adoption June 1, 2004, after living 21 years without a family. Yesterday, my adoptive mom found out that I had done something very wrong with my younger adoptive brothers (no, it was nothing perverted), and I know how angry they get. If they tried, would they be able to have the courts reverse the adoption ruling, or unadopt me?

[DeNaJa]

I don't know what they could do legally. I do know when we adopted, we put up our right hand and swore on the Bible that we would love and care for our new baby just as we do our bio kids. We also have our Wills, a legal document, that provides financially for the children irregardless of whether they are bio or adopted. Parents get angry. They may be mad, frustrated, and even disappointed witht he actions of their children...but they still LOVE them with a love you cannot fully comprehend till you are a parent yourself. They took an oath, went to all the trouble and expense of adopting you...they did this to make it "official"...to show the world they love you and that you are THEIRS...you are part of their family and to bond you together legally...they probably also did it to help you feel secure in their love and commitment. They love you. They may be unset at you for whatever it is you did, but they will not abandon you. You are their child. They are your parents. You will get past this the way all parents and children do...communication and some time. With time, you will feel safe and as you communicate, you will know...and they will continue to prove to you that they love you and you are their child...completely and totally their beloved child.

[Kangarooz]

My adoptive parents have after 33 years written a horrible letter telling us that they do not want any contact with us. I have two young boys age 4 & 5 and cannot understand how they can do this.

They do not like the fact that we have contact with my birth parents after what they did to me. They have not talked to us about it, they can only write letters which are totally misinterpreted and misunderstood.

Some parents just have something missing in them that allows them to abandon their children. I have been unfortunate to have two rubbish families.