[DeNaJa]

ha ha ha! I laughed outloud when you wrote Q: Does it bother you to have a child that doesn't look like you?A: I am just grateful she doesn't look like you.
I would love to be around to see the faces of people when they get those kinds of responses! My daughter is special needs and I get questions about why she isn't potty trained yet or "what is wrong with her" or even just stares of disgust...oh how fun. But I find I am sometimes "too" polite. My daugher's problems stem from an abortion attempt that occured when she was 20wks. Her birth mom had been pressured at 13 to consent to an abortion, but thankfully the procedure was halted part way through & rescheduled. Her birth mom decided to place her daughter for adoption instead of continuing with the abortion process. We were sharing her medical history with a specialist we were seeing to evaluate her development and he told us "it isn't a problem that they were doing a 2nd trimester abortion, but that they didn't complete it." Polite went out the window. As I picked my jaw up out of my lap and recovered my tongue, I told the doctor, "Well, I'd rather she be delayed than dead." Can I tell you how insulted I was as her mother to have him say that to me...in front of my daughter! A "completed" abortion would have meant my daughter would have died. The child he had playing in his exam room, who was smiling at us, who was giving my hugs and who I tucked in at night would be dead. We never went back to that guy!