[shaiqua]

I am an Indian residing outside India - adopted a wonderful little girl...brought her home to my mum's house when sh ewas four an da half month sold...we thought we would be able to bring her home in a month or so but due problems with bureaucracy we will only be bring her home next month at 9 months...
She has gotten used to my mum as primary care giver - I spent the first 2 1/2 months with her an dmy husband and i have been visiting her regularly so sh eis familiar with us but most attached to my mum...
I am very worried about how she will handle transition of new place and new people.. She is used to the hustle and bustle of mum's house all the attention of so many peopleand now suddenly sh ewill be removed from it
I know it will affect her eating an dsleeping but woul dlike any advice on how to make it easier..she has had so many changes - borth mother 2 1/2 month, orphanage 2 months, mum's home -with hospital for a week inbetween (pneumonia) and now this...any advice on how to make it less traumatic fo r her would be apprecited!!!

[lucyjoy]

Although this will be difficult for your child, with some attachment parenting, she will attach to you quickly. She will benenfit from the time and love she got from your mother.

When she comes to stay with you, keep her with you as much as possible. Get a shoulder carrier(baby snuggly?)and strap the child to you for a few months.

If she has familiar toys and blankets from your mothers, that will help also.

If your mother where's a certain perfume or uses a scented soap or lotion, you might want to use some of the same thing to help her "senses". Smell can be very powerful and she may associate those smells with good things and feel more secure.

Rubbing lotion or doing gentle massage can also help.

[shaiqua]

Dear Lucy -
Thanks....reassuring.
Am trying to bring back most of the toys she has had there.... was thinking of my mum's nightie - now an convinced it might help...
Have bought a lotion for soothing fussy children(!!)
Am soo excited just hope she isnt too traumatised - thankfully sh erecognises us..