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Originally Posted By Melissa McNabb

I am remarried and have a child from my first husband. My new husband would really like to adopt my son. My son is very happy about the idea. My ex husband is willing to let the adoption take place. We dont have a lot of money. Can i get some low cost help if both parties are willing to work this out?
Sincerely,
Melissa McNabb, melmcnabb@yahoo.com

[lina]

It should be pretty easy since there is not going to be a problem with the other bio dad consenting to the adoption. Without the consent it gets pretty ugly and expensive.

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[MrsGroves1]

I am in the exact situation. We have contacted lawyers and unfortunately it is pretty expensive. It really doesn't matter if both parties are in agreement or not, I've been told. Home studies still have to be done, which are pricy, Basically what happens is you would have to find a lawyer that specializes in adoption and reliquishing of rights. You and your husband would go to the lawyer and make a statement letting him/her know that you want this to go thru, then your ex would go in and do the same plus say that no one coursed him into signing. Have the lawyer make a recording of this because by the time court comes along and by chance he decides to change his mind they will have it on tape, not to mention let's say on down the road, your husband raises your child and now your child is no longer a minor and over child support age your ex cannot come back into the picture and want to be part of your lives again because basically now all the work of raising and being financially responsible has been done.