[crabcakes]

I've posted this question a few times too many, but I've never gotten a response. I only hear of contested adoptions that were denied. As if all it takes is the bioparent to show up and wink -- and the adoption was denied.

Anyone know of any contested adoptions that were granted despite any "post-petition" effort from the bioparent?

THANKS

[jsimon]

My case is not quite started yet. The Attorney is taking his time because my husband and I have not been married for a year yet. The BF doesn't know about the adoption but I suspect he will contest it out of pride but he has never even met his daughter outside of the time I took her to see him in jail April of 2004. He has never paid child support either. My daughter is 3 1/2 now. He just got out of prison this month but he hasn't called so I guess that is a good sign. I still think he will have a fit when he gets those papers. I will let you know what happens. I didn't want you to feel ignored. Good luck to you.

[Zacsmom]

We go to court next week so I'll let you know the outcome. Ours was contested even though he's currently in prison for many years AND he's never seen my DS who is 13! It should be a breeze, but it's still a very nerve-racking situation.

[billysmommy]

Not a step parent adoption, but I survived a contested adoption, and won.

[crabcakes]

Thanks for all your replies. It means a whole lot and good luck to jsimon and zacsmom.

[jaslken]

Originally Posted by Zacsmom

We go to court next week so I'll let you know the outcome. Ours was contested even though he's currently in prison for many years AND he's never seen my DS who is 13! It should be a breeze, but it's still a very nerve-racking situation.

What happened in court??? Everything went okay

[frankispapa]

Hi,I Am New To This Site So Let Me Begin With A Brief History Of What Occurred To My Family 2 Years Ago-

My Wife And I Are In Our 40`s And Have 2 Older Children (well 3 Now-just Keep Reading!!!!) Our Older Children Are Ages 14 And 21.back In June Of 2004 We Had A New Addition Arrive To Us From The Phillipine Islands.the Following Is The Story Of How This Came To Be-

Charlie Is Actually The Son Of My Brother Who Had Met A Girl In The Phillipine Islands Through A Pen Pal Service Known As Cherry Blossoms Inc.back In June Of 2003 My Brother Went To The Phillipine Islands To Meet His Pen Pal And Eventually He Did Marry Her.i Was Against This Marriage Because My Brother Has A Vast History Of Mental Illness And Has Never Been Able To Hold A Job Nor Get His Life Quite On Track,i Felt That Before He Involved Anyone Else In His Life He Needs To Get Himself On Track But Unfortunately Neither Him Nor My Parents Listened To Me.
Eventually After Their Marriage My Sister In Law Became Pregnant With His Child While In The Phillipines.while My Sister In Law Was Pregnant My Brother Returned To The States And Stated That He Was Going To Get A Job That Never Seemed To Materialize.my Sister In Law Gave Birth To My Nephew On Feb,3,2004.unfortunately During The Pregnancy There Were Complications With My Sister In Law And She Went Into A Coma
Which Eventually Took Her Life In Mid March Of 2004.my Brother And My Father Went To The Phillipine Islands While My Sister In Law Was In The Coma And When She Passed My Dad Began The 4 Month Process Of Trying To Get The Baby Back Into The States.while This Process Was Going On My Wife And I Decided That When The Baby Came Here We Would Raise Him Because My Brother Really Is Not Psychologically Fit To Be A Father.my Father And Brother Both Agreed To This And The Baby Is With Us Now-happy,healthy And Spoiled !!!!!
Initially My Wife And I Were Going To Be His Guardians And Let My Brother Play A Role In His Life.but As Time Went Along We Have Come To Realize That My Brother Does Not Really Care About Being In His Son`s Life So Now We Are Looking At Adoption. We Have Taken Sole Responsibility Of This Child Both Spiritually And Financially.

What Is Our Next Step In Our Attempt To Adopt This Beautiful Child-your Advice And Moral Support Will Be Greatly Appreciated !!!

[chantela]

If the court does accept. still you dont know for sure if the child you are adopting will accept you! When theya re adult, they will understand, but as a child, they will grow with a different mentality..you dont know what to expect from your adopted child in the future, just like in thh link : http://www.iwishisaidno.com/forum/14...ts-easier.html
, there is a question and discussion dealt on those who can accept thei step-parents easily or not.

[mackiedoobuzz]

Hi! I have a friend in Oklahoma that I know filed a step parent adoption three years after dissapearing to another state and dropping contact with everyone on the earth for sometime. Somehow, her lawyer managed to track down the bio father and he showed up in court, ready to sign over rights, but then decided last minute that he just couldn't not fight. He then filed with the Oklahoma court to have visitation, because he claimed she had disappeared and he had no way of contacting her, and it was out of his control that he had had no contact (which was true). The judge told him that he would not grant the step parent adoption until he was ready, but at the same time, he would not allow him to have an visitation with her bio father (child is age 8) because he had been out of the pic for over three years and she knew my friends' husband as dad. Long story short, I just got word (this was only three months out from the time they had been in court) he decided to let it go, and signed over his rights in the best interest of his daughter. HE realized he has two other children now in a new marraige, and needed to let it go for the sake of his daughter. I think part of his reaoning was that he just had a "spiritual awakening" and has gotten a little zealous these days about things. But all turned out in the best interest of that little girl. So, I guess there's hope! (I'm in a similar situation right now, and my husband is preparing to adopt my girls, but we also had to leave the state and now are waiting our 6 months until Nevada has jurisdiction over the custodial case. So, good luck! If you have any questions, or just wanan share knowledge on this touchy subject, let me know!
Bren

[Jacqueline_38612]

My husband and I are going though a step parent adoption also right now and BF is also contesting it! We've been to court three times and he just now hired a lawyer so we now have to go back again! Our next date is set for Aug 4th 06, I will keep u posted on how it goes! I had the same question but then came to know that it really depends on what kind of situation u are dealing with and what state and all! Different situations have different outcomes so really its all just a guessing game until the end! If you need to talk feel free to email me or pm me on here!(jac_38612@yahoo.com) Good Luck to ALL!

[losing_hope]

Hello,

My husband wanted to adopt adopted my 3 children. The BF contested to it, and told the judge he wanted an attorney so they postponed the hearing for the BF to get an attorney. Long story short he never showed at the postponed hearing after raising such a stink at the first hearing. My husband was allowed to adopt my children. I have posted my story on here if you want to read it. The judge didn't just rule on the fact that the BF didn't show. I still had to testify and prove why the BF abandoned the children. Not all cases are denied. Good luck with yours. There's alot of people who have been and are very supportive in here, and I'm glad I found this site. It made me realise I wasn't alone.

[Jacqueline_38612]

Just wanted to let you all know that are out there searching for the answer to this question!
Our adoption was granted though contested!!!!!!!!
Not every case is the same, and it all depends on the things in the situations that have happend ect ect ! BUT, Good luck to you all in this kind of situation! It's not easy, nor is it stress free in ant situation! But fight for what is right and hold your head up high and you should be fine!
*You can read about our case in the forums under "hoping this is over soon!"