[chandlerhill]

I have a 9 month old son his bio dad and I were never married and he kicked me out of the home when I was 3 months pregnant to be with another woman. He is not on the birth cert he does not pay child support and he does not see my son. In 9 months he has seen him maybe 7 or 8 times. He saw him almost 3 months ago and for only an hour here in my home. He does not interact with him and does not call or anything.

I am engaged to be married and will be moving to another state. My fiancee has been his father in every way except blood. I was wondering what kind of hoops will we have to jump for him to become his father legally?

I am in the state of GA in case that helps.

[Kallen330]

After you marry, move, and establish residency(usually 6 mos.) contact the court that handles adoptions in the state you will be living in. If you start proceedings in the state you are in now the adoption may not be able to be completed before you have to move. This will also "start the clock" so to speak for the time that you two have been married. Some states require that you be married for a certain period of time before allowing a stepparent adoption to occur.

You may also want to check the laws regarding stepparent adoption in the state you live in now and the state you will be moving to. If the state you are in now has more favorable laws you may want to postpone a move until you can finalize an adoption.

Good Luck!!

[jenniferstanley]

I am curious if you would have to have your husband adopt your child since you did not put the biological father on the birth certificate. Couldn't you just add your husband to the childs birth certificate in some legal way? I would research on that. How is anyone to know that the child is not his biological child unless they demand a DNA test?

[Eventually]

Falsifying a birth certificate is illegal. One could get into alot of trouble for doing so.

[alvarez_leoatx]

You dont have to contact the bio father at ALL!! Just go down to your local birth certifcate office (you and your fiance) and request a "change form". In Texas the amount to do this is only $9. You fill out the info that needs to be changed, in this case added, and you file it. Your Finace will have to sign an acknowledgement of paternity and they will issue you a new birth certificate on the spot. Your fiance's name will be listed as the father and your kid will have the same last name. It's weird I know. You think it will be hard but it is not. You can do this I know for a fact because my mother did it with me and my sister. As long as the bio father's name is NOT listed on the orignal birth certificate you will have no problems getting this done. The bio father can not say anything once this is done. And for him to get it changed will be impossible. I know that as well because my bio father inquired about it and they told him he couldnt do anything about it.

[val26moore]

I'm not sure what the laws are in GA, but I'm in MD and my husband just got his decree to adopt my daughter on yesterday. What I did was called the circuit court family division for adoptions and find out what exactly you have to do. I was surprised that what had to be done was very easy and not complicated at all. I know that they may require you and your fiancee to be married at least a year. You will definitely need to get the sperm donor to consent to the adoption. How I handled it was like this, I sent the SD a notorized letter in the mail stated that me and my husband wants to meet with him in regards to his daughter. I had my aunt act as a meditator (if necessary in your case) and I found out from him what he planned on doing for her and then I said what we wanted. I gave him time to think about it but it didn't take him long before he consented. Before you do all that find out what exactly you need to do first. Have any more ?'s email me at val26moore@yahoo.com

[Canard de mère]

IF you decide to add your fiiancee as the father wihtout going through the proper channels & the BF decides to get involved the courts would hold that against you & favor the BF no matter what the history is.....