[chrisjason]

Hello, I adopted my daughter when she was 11 years old. She has always had a close relationship with her grandmother. Her grandmother helped my wife raise her while she would work instead of daycare and afterschool care. The years have passed and the grandmother still tries to hold too much control over my daughter. My daughter is now 16 almost 17 in one month. Without my knowledge my wife and her mother (my stepmother)
were letting my daughter date a boy that was 3.5 years older
then her knowing that I would not approve. I felt really betrayed
by everyone involved. My daughter wanted me to know after a few months so she broke the news to me. I voiced my disapproval of the situation and she practically disowned me for a few months. My daughters grandmother was very upset that I
would not approve of the boy and has since not talked to me in over a year. She would not even talk to me at wedding parties when I would speak to her. Now, I have basically lost
control over my daughter because she runs to granny when I dont approve of something and my wife does not intervene or support me regardless of the situation. I feel kinda helpless
at the moment. Any suggestions would be appreciated.

[numbr1dbcksfan]

Hmmm....well that sounds like women to me! I know you are serious...but I always tell my ex (we are still working on things...) that no matter what, if he is being unreasonable I will pull rank and over rule him....and I do so all the time....and will continue to...!! But in this situation, unless he was a total loser, Im not sure that I would have a problem....its not like he is of drinking age and hanging out in bars....it would really depend on the person...at 17 I would pretty much let her make most of her decisions....unless she was unruly or something and I was forced to step in.... My daughter is 7 and I already pretty much let her make her own choices, and she is pretty good at not breaknig the rules because of it.....I hope as a teen I would be able to trust her to make good choices...but we'll see... I think it all comes down to ow much you trust your daughter...if she wanted you to know, then my bet would be that he isnt such a bad guy... I would rather my daughter at 17 date a responsible college student than an arrogant HS senior anyday....