[jlcwc92300]

hello all, i'm the step mother of a 7yr old girl. her Bio mom just called (first time sence April) and said that she is willing to sign over her rights so that i can ADOPT!!!!! ok here is my question(s)-
can you get legal aid for a conscented step adoption? i know we have to get a lawyer, but we (her and I) aggree to try to find the CHEAPEST way to do this. i can't belive that she called to say this!!!! (i'm just a bit happy! )

ok short history- i've had S sence feb. of 99, just after she was 3yrs old. in this time (99 to now) bio has sent 1 christmas card 99, 1 set of gifts for christmas(showed up jan. 9 of this yr.) 1 letter 02, scattered phone calls(min. of 2-4 months between, any where up to 2yrs.) and has seen S once when an aunt took her to see her. and to many lies about coming to see or call or send something, to count. needless to say SHES MY DAUGHTER!

but yes, i'm just happy and wanting to know what would be the cheepest way all around for both of us. we are in Indiana and she is in WI. she said she spoke with a lawyer and she was told that we would have to start everything. thats fine i was just waiting for the yr. of no contact to go and speak with someone about this. but she called first so------
i would like any help or anythng posable
thank you all!
Joy

[littleangel1198]

Congratulations!

We just recently had the same thing happen. My ex called and asked if my husband wanted to adopt my boys. Of course we said yes. I can't help you out as for a lawyer.
We found one that is charging about $650 for the total adoption. Fees are $350. My ex said he'd pay the court fees.....so, we'll see if he follows through on that ( I already paid them, he has to reimburse me) . I would call around and see what a lawyer might charge in your area. Mine was a lot less than I had thought it would be.
BTW, I am in NY, the ex is in CO.

[jlcwc92300]

thanks and congrats to you too!. we did just that today started calling around, we had the lowest quote at around $500, another said $600 + court cost and one around $800. so we are not sure witch one we are going to go with just yet, i just wish i had that $$ in hand right now. it won't be long but it seams that way. we haven't told my girl about it yet, want to get the ball rolling first. the only thing that made me mad about it was that she (bio mom) admitted that it was coming down to the $$. she finally got a job and the first check they took out support, and she said it was just too much. truthfully i don't care what her resons are for wanting to sign as long as she does at this point.
well thats about all for now and once again CONGRATS!!!

[buggygirl]

First of all CONGRATS!!!!
I'm in Georgia, and I did some checking around as far as a consentual adoption. And when you have the consent of the natural parents the process is relatively simple. It can be done for a lot less than an attorney would charge by going to a paralegal to have them prepare the paperwork for you and then you then in turn file it with the court for approval. You might want to check in to it where you are, it's worth a shot! Again Congrats!!! Hope I helped!

[littleangel1198]

HA! The money is exactly why me ex is doing it too! LOL Pathetic....people will 'sell' their kids out for a few hundred bucks! But, the kids are better off for it in the long run...they get a parent who wants them more than thier money .

Oh, and my ex is supposed to be in town today or tomorrow....UGH! He wants to see the kids too. Oh, and get this, even after the adoption....he wants to be able to call them and see them when ever he can. "Oh sure....no responsibilities and all the fun"....RIGHT! I told him yes, he could....however, after those papers are final....well, my husband might have a different oppinion....I just told him to wait till it's all final before he says a word. **evil grin**

Sorry, I don't mean to go off, but right now I am in a foul mood over him coming to town. And, he's bringing his new wifey (UGH!!) and their new baby. Nothing against their baby.....but, I knew this would happen after he was born...and sure enough....it did. I know it's better for the kids in the end...but it just irks me to no end!
Ok, I'll stop.......but, good luck with it all...I hope it goes quickly and well for you.

[jlcwc92300]

thanks for that idea buggygirl, i haven't thought of that route yet. and littleangel- the bio said almost the same thing to me- "Oh i don't want to be cut off compleatly from her, i still want to stay in contact." well if you where in contact now then we wouldn't be going threw this now would we???? the last time she "clamed" to be coming to see my girl was in may, she called in Marchl and said she would be down. well friday was the first time we heard ANYTHING from her. oh yeah stay in touch my butt! yeah she has another boy from the "man" she has been with for 6 yrs now. and that is one part that makes my skin crawl is when she did call in April she asked my girl if she wanted to talk to him, she said yes, (we have to "spy" on the calls, when she was 3 she called and when they got off the phone S told her dad "i want you to take me to my moms and never pick me up, because you won't ever let me see her" so since then we spy on the calls) i really hope she didn't hear her (bio) talking to G, she had to tell him what to say on the phone and when he asked "what sister". that one i wanted to smack her threw the phone for, she is always saying how G talks about S and misses her and wants to see her. they have met 2 times in their lives. i'm sorry i just don't know how you miss someone you don't know . and about the wanting them more than the $$ i total aggree, i told hubby i don't care if it cost a million i would push pull beg or steal if i had to. i will be $$ well spent. oh and i fully understand you not wanting to see the ex, like comeing to see them one more time is going to make a difference. and yeah i told bio that yeah we can set up something so that they can stay in touch, but once them papers are signed sealed and delivered- I DON'T THINK SO! it is because of the NO contact, lies, and empty promises that we where/are haveing the problems. that is the point of the adoption is to put a stop to all of them. ok i've rambled off plenty for now. i will keep you in my thoughts and all, thanks once agian all! and don't let the ex get under the skin- you will be MUCH more happier when its all done and said . by the way how old are your kids?
till then-

[littleangel1198]

Joy, my kids are 12 and 10. We also have a 4 year old together, and I have 2 step daughters...10 and 9 yrs old who live in MD with their mom.

All I can say is...if you ever want to vent...feel free to contact me. I know I always feel better after I do it! heheh

[jlcwc92300]

ok yeah S is 7yrs old (8 in Oct.) and we have a 2yr. old togeter. and like i said she has a boy that will be 6 or 7 next month. (i don't know and truly don't care at this point, now if S had a relationship w/ him i would just till she could do the dates herself) and THANK YOU for offering a venting place, i know i vent a bit (good or bad) pm me and we can exchange emails and all if you would like and i will always be here to hear you out as well! well till then-